"They want your goals to meet their needs." 1 S. Hein
Msg from Steve: I am in a lot of emotional pain these days. I need emotional support and help with some tasks. Please write me if you would like to help in some way. Thanks. Steve Hein - Mar 2014
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Jan 23, 2014
I have decided to change this section. Below is the old text for it, but I want to say something different today. I want to say that I consider myself an emotional orphan. This realization has come to me after trying to get some empathy and understanding from my sister - the one who was like my second mother, or my mother's assistant in raising/domesticating me when I lived in the USA, in Fort Wayne, Indiana in the 60's. I was born in 1957 so I am 56 now and will be 57 in July.
Anyhow, I am Steve Hein. This is the name which was given to me. So I have kept it. I started this site around 1997 or 1998. I have learned a lot since then. One of my most important teachers was a suicidal girl by the name of Sarah. I started talking to her when she was 11 years old, just a few months from turning 12. She introduced me to the world of teen self-harm, depression and suicide. This knowledge has changed my life, my world views... basically everything.
SInce meeting Sarah, I have always felt a lot of empathy, understanding and compassion for suicidal teenagers, but after talking to my sister recently, I understand their pain even more.
It pains me to see that people who have been labeled by society as professionals seem to know much less about depression, self-harm and suicide than I do. I also feel suicidal and I get very depressed at times. I believe this and my education directly from suicidal teenagers qualifies me much more than studying in a university would. I did go to several universities, but I don't have much faith in them now when it comes to these things. I studed business. Got an MBA degree, was "successful". Retired in my 30's. Have travelled the world and experienced many things since then. I travel ultra-low budget. Sleeping on train station floors at times, btw.
So that is enough about me for now. Below is the old text....
Thanks for reading. Oh, btw, I am an atheist. I don't consider myself spiritual either. The word spiritual pains me. I have so many painful associations with it. I recently read something by a US government licensed psychiatrist named Judith Orloff, who considers herself some kind of psychic, which pained me greatlhy. I thought of it when I woke up this morning. It is so unscientific, yet she is an assistant professor at UCLA, a university with a fairly good reputation in the USA and world. She writes for the Huffington Post. She is surely wealthy financially, yet, like so many Americans, seems to need even more money and seems to be constantly promoting herself, like Dan Goleman, though he is surely a millionaire.
Then this week also I watched a documentary by the BBC about depression. In it some guy was called one of the leading experts in depression -- he is also a government licensed psychiatrist. When asked how to prevent depression he basically just said useless things like eating and sleeping sensibily. This was after 30 years of experience, or supposedly experience. But maybe it was more like 1 year repeated 30 times. He really has no clue why people get depressed or how to prevent it. Yet he is interviewed for the documentary and countless people will give his word credibilty. I really feel offended by this. Yet I feel almost powerless to stop this kind of thing. Your help, if you understand and agree with what I am saying, would be greatly appreciated. We are in serious need for people to come here to Uruguay, for a short or long visit, and help us. My partner is nearly handicapped physically and she needs someone to listen to her and give her emotional support. I give her a lot but she is too dependent on me and I need time to do other things for myself. I am stretched too thin. Again, thank you for reading. If you want to help, let me know via my contact info page.
The old "about"
This site is a place where you can find useful, practical and important information about emotions and life. It contains information about emotional intelligence, some tools and resources, and some new ideas.
The EQI.org site acknowledges the pain and problems in the world, but offers young and old a new direction. It offers encouragement and emotional support. It let's those who feel pain and frustration know they are not alone and are not crazy. A special focus of this site is to provide emotional support to young people who are depressed and are thinking of ending their lives. We believe this site speaks with the most realistic authority on teen depression and suicide. Our expertise comes from countless hours of first-hand communication with teens from many countries.
Our site is helping create a vision of a world which is more livable for children and sensitive people.
EQI.org is also for parents, teachers, educators, psychologists, therapists, attorneys, social workers and school counselors. It is for anyone who wants practical knowledge and resources to help others develop their emotional intelligence and emotional skills. The founder of the site, Steve Hein, was born and raised in the USA but has been traveling around the world since 1997. He and his partner now live in Uruguay.
Thank you for visiting.
Hi Nash - Thanks for looking at my site. I am working on something I call a framework to an emotionally intelligent alternative society. I think you will get a lot of my ideas. I have been feeling very alone and even a little suicidal this morning. I feel pain from so many things. You seem like a guy with a good "heart." So I'd like to connect with you. Here is my framework. BTW I have been listening to the stories of sucidal teenagers for about 15 years. They have helped me see what is wrong with society and the American culture in particullar.
Nash is the creator of this website "Your Epic Destiny
You cannot simultaneously prevent and prepare for war. A. Einstein
1. "They" refers to people who want to manipulate you, control you, abuse their power over you, etc. I thought of it when I was thinking how control over people has evolved from physical control to psychological. Now we have goverments, the "2 percent", the super rich, corporations, etc. manufacturing not only our consent, but our goals so it will serve their needs. For example, they would like our goal to be to work hard, make a lot of money buy a lot of things, pay a lot of taxes, borrow a lot of money, be willing to die to keep them in power etc.
Later I may write more about my thinking that led to this but basically I thought how we use understanding of nature to control animals, then people controlled slaves, then employees, now employees and "citizens." Control of citizens is the ultimate in psychological control out of all of these with words like duty, patriotism, responsibility, morals, education, success, deserving, etc. And things like "good behavior", "good grades."