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Letters From the Unloved
The Hidden World of Teen Depression

Letters from the Unloved

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Feb 2015 Note from Steve

Some new letters we received are below. I have received many more since the book came out but I don't have time to post many of them since I have to edit them to make them more annonymous etc.


I wanted to talk to somebody, I am a poor excuse for a person. Finding it very hard to loose weight I always used to be skinny, its disgusting. I hate life, I don't no if anyone will read this or receive this letter ,to be honest I don't really care any more. I wasn't built for this life, I find myself to be a self loather.<---this letter is an example.Stupid Girl I dont deserve help. Jesus christ I hate it.
So I don't know if a robot is going to reply to this, but I don't care. I'm desperate. I need help. I'm a 14 year old suicidal girl, if I were to label myself. I tried telling my parents this, but they seem to make this worse. I hear from others that it's some chemical imbalance, disorder, phase, or something like that.

I've been having suicidal thoughts ever since I was 10 years old. I still remember that vivid day, where I first thought of the idea of killing yourself. I can describe it to you if you want, but I don't want to take up more time that I've already have. So I'm just crossing my fingers, and I don't expect much. Don't take it personally, after all there's a chance you might be a robot anyway. I'm just pessimistic like that. I guess


i'm a teen in need of serious help. Do you have any advice for me? My mother is emotionally abusive to me so bad that in the past I have runaway twice, planned to leave with a friend which failed terribly, have created concoctions that can kill me, and a bunch of other dangerous things.

My school has labled me depressed and autistic because of the way I've been acting at school due to how my mother has treated me at home.The depression is because of her, as is the runaway incidents.

I am very suicidal, and have tried to kill myself before but it failed. None of my friends are willing to help me try to find a way to get out. Very few people believe me when I tell them everything she's done. The few who do have never made any motion to help me except for one person who she blames for everything that I've done and am no longer allowed to contact.

My "family" is no help to me. They all say "she's doing this because she loves you" and all that other stuff that I don't believe. You probably get a lot of teens who ask for help in similar situations but I can say this. CPS did not help. They talked to her, noticed she was a nurse, thought her home was best for me even though I had told them everything she had done.

I do have somewhere I can stay and plan to leave the day before xmas, when she's working.
I am 17, turning 18 in February, but I cannot wait a few more months. I am going insane, literally. If most of my family could see me, they would put me in a mental hospital which my mother wants to do. She has never said it, but she thinks there's something really bad wrong with me and wants me locked up for good. She's already put me in counseling.

My father is no help to me, he lost his home and is getting all kinds of medical treatment probably for aids or something since he is gay, so I cannot ask him for help.

I have tried suicide hotline, but they are also no help. And my school counselor blows me off like I'm not even there or that I'm just complaining about nothing at all.

Please, I need help before I end up killing myself or end up in the metal hospital.

To Steve,

Before reading your site I did not even realise what my mum is doing to me is abuse. I really thought there was something wrong with me. Shes constantly telling me how much she does and how I don't even give a shit even though I never said a word. She calls me names like cowbag, bitch and even dickhead when I do something wrong like wash up too slow or when she calls me and I don't hear and then she doesnt beleive me and ignores me for a few hours until I apologise.

She's never in the wrong its always me even though I've decided not to speak to her because she will contradict every little thing I say and start a fight and say its my fault. She slaps me on a regular basis and she hits me on the back and arms and legs really hard and when I cry she calls me pathetic.

She got me up in the middle of the night to clean once because my cleaning was ' unsatisfactory'. She always talks about me to other people (sometimes to my face) to get sympathy. I never talk back to her because I'm too scared. I think I'm going crazy

Yours truly