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Self Esteem
Estima de si mismo en español

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Self Esteem--What is it?

Self esteem is how I feel about myself. It is my general judgment of myself. It is how much I like myself. The following is a list of characteristics of a person with high or low self esteem. Which list of feelings sounds most like you?

Characteristics of High Self Esteem:

  • I believe I am important.
  • I believe that the world is better because I am in it.
  • I have confidence in myself and my abilities.
  • I am able to ask for help.
  • I trust my decisions.
  • I believe that I am my own best resource.

Characteristics of Low Self Esteem:

  • I do not think I am important.
  • I expect to be cheated and discounted by others.
  • I do not trust others.
  • Other people don't like me.
  • I feel lonely and isolated.
  • I am not interested in myself, or other people around me.

If you feel more like the feelings under high self esteem, good for you!!! But, if you feel that you can relate more with the feelings listed under low self esteem, let's see if we can help you learn to feel better about yourself.

"There is always hope that your life can change because there is always something new to learn"-- (Virginia Satir).

"You can fall and feel a failure, but never lose your self-respect"-- ( Herbert Fensterheim and Jean Baer).

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Exploration of Self

What do I think about myself? What do others think of me? What do I want in life? What makes me happy? What do I do to please myself? How would I like to be different? What can I do to be the person I want to be? How do I feel about myself?

Learning how to feel better about yourself can seem like a very difficult task. But, often taking the first step is the most difficult. Learning how to think more positively is a great first step. Try starting here:

 

Rules for Serenity
  • Today, I will live my day fully, without worrying about how to work out all my problems in one day.
  • Today, I will take care of my physical appearance. I will eat right and exercise.
  • Today, I will be kind and polite to others.
  • Today, I will try not to be better than anyone else. I will just be the best me.
  • Today, I will be happy.
  • Today, I will adapt to the tasks I face, without expecting the tasks to adapt to me.
  • Today, I will dedicate 20 minutes to reading something constructive. Reading is good for my mental health.
  • Today, I will perform a good deed, without telling anyone about it.
  • Today, I will plan what I need to do, putting my most important activities on the top of the list.
  • Today, I will follow my plan carefully.
  • Today, I will not feel afraid.
  • Today, I will be able to enjoy life, and believe in kindness.
    (Anonymous)

 


There are many ways of learning to feel better about yourself. The first step is learning how to think positively about yourself; the second step is to apply this new thinking to everyday life. I would like to recommend that you try the following suggestions:

Steps Toward Self- Confidence

  • Self awareness
    • I will be aware of my strengths and weaknesses and set my goals to match.
    • I will decide what my values and beliefs are.
    • I will think about how I would like my life to be.
  • Letting go of the past
    • I will review my past and forgive those who have hurt me.
    • I will forgive myself for those whom I have hurt.
    • I will think about my past experiences, and try to learn from them.
    • I will let go of guilt and shame. They have little value on my new path.
    • I will not allow my past experiences to block my future successes.
  • Understanding and planning
    • I will search for why I behave or react in certain situations--physically, socially, and financially.
    • I will remember that there is always a different way to behave in each of these areas of my life--physical, social, and financial.
  • Positive new ways of looking at life
    • I will look for more positive ways of behaving in these areas of my life.
    • I will be more tolerant of myself and others.
    • I will only make a note of areas in my life that need attention.
    • I will focus on my good qualities.
    • I will be kind to myself.
    • I will not allow others to criticize me in unhelpful ways.
    • I will look at my failures as only a way that does not work.
    • I will look for another way to do a task if the old way does not work.
    • I will surround myself with people, places, and situations which help me feel.
  • Good things about myself and others.
    • If I cannot change a situation so that I feel more valued, I will leave the situation. Life is too short to waste.
    • I will not participate in events which leave me feeling less than.
    • I will take time to relax, listen to myself, and enjoy being with my best friend--me.
    • I will enjoy activities that I like to do by myself. This will help me get in touch with my "real" self.
  • New behaviors
    • I will practice being pleasant and enjoying people, even if it is difficult at first.
    • I will enjoy the positive energy that others have.
    • I will not take on other people's negative energy.
    • I will let people know I am available to give, receive, and share.
    • I will take risks which may help me become the person I want to be. I will not always play it safe.
    • I am able to handle life's challenges.
  • Goal planning
    • I will set goals for myself.
    • I will make a plan for reaching these goals.
    • I will work my plan.
    • I will look at my progress each day, and change anything that needs to be changed so that I can be successful again tomorrow.
  • Self recognition
    • I will congratulate myself for my progress.
    • I will forgive myself should I make a mistake. I will then, return to my plan.
    • I will do my best in everything that I do.
    • I have a responsibility to myself for things that happen in my life.
    • I am unique. I do not need to do things the way others do only to please them.
  • Self encouragement
    • I can make the best thing happen for me.
    • I play an active role in whatever happens to me.
    • It is up to me to change my life.
    • I have the self -confidence to do it.
    • I can make it.
    • I will keep trying.

My Declaration of Self Esteem

I am me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are persons who have some parts like me, but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because I alone chose it. I own everything about me: my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all its thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they may be: anger, joy, frustration, love disappointment, excitement; my mouth, and all the words that come out of it: polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud or soft, and all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own all of my triumphs and successes, all of my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solution of the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time, is mine. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time. When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfit. I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am okay.--(from Virginia Satir)

 

 

 

 


Spanish

ESTIMA DE SI MISMO


[ Qué es esto? | Reglas para la Serenidad |
Mi Declaración de Mi Estima de Mi Mismo ]

Estima de si mismo--Qué es esto?
La estima de si mismo es la manera como yo me siento acerca de mi mismo. Es el juicio y valor general de mi. Es cuanto yo me valore a mi misma las siguientes so un serie de caracteristicas de una persona con alta o baja estima de si mismo. Cuales de estas caracteristicas se identifica más contigo?

Alta estima de si misma:

Baja estima de si mismo:


Si usted se siente asi como una estima alta, felicitaciones. Pero a veces puede sentirse lo contrario, entonces busca ayuda.

Recuerda "Siempre hay esperanza y oportunidad para cambiar porque siemptre hay oportunidad para aprender"--(Virginia Satir)

Aprender como sentirse bien con uno mismo es una tarea difícil. Generalmente cuando uno toma el primer paso, la tarea se hace mas fácil. Aprender como tomar la vida positivamente es uno de los primeros pasos a tomar. Vamos a comenzar aquí.

Reglas para la Serenidad

Conductas Nuevas

Mis Metas

Conciencia de Mi Mismo(a)

Estimulando a Mi Misma


Mi Declaración de Mi Estima de Mi Mismo


Yo soy yo. En el mundo no hay nadie exactamente como yo. Hay personas que tienen parte de mi, pero no suman exactamente quien yo soy. De esta manera, todo lo que viene de mi es autenticamente mio, porque yo lo decidi yo mismo(a). yo soy el propietario de todo lo que constituye mi ser mi cuerpo, mis ideas, mis ojos y lo que miran, mis pensamientos, mis sentimientos ya sea felicidad, o rabia, mis frustraciones, mis desengaña;os, mi boca, mi acento si tengo uno, las experiencias positivas y negativas que vivo, mis acciones, mis miedos y esperanzas. Yo soy el propietario de mis exitos y fracasos. Poque yo me pertenezco a mi mimo(a) yo puedo conocerme intimamente y yo puedo quererme y ser amigable conmigo mismo. Yo soy la propietaria de mis culturas y las riquezas que esto me brinda Yo puedo hacer posible que todo lo que yo tenga trabaje unido para alcanzar lo que yo quiero. Yo se que hay cosas de mi que no puedo explicar, y cosas que no entiendo y no se que hacer, pero mientras yo me quiera a mi misma y sea amigable conmigo yo puedo buscar las soluciones a esos misterios de mi que a veces tengo y puedo asi conocerme mejor.

No importa como yo parezca y luzca a otros, lo que haga y siento, todo esto me pertenece. Esto es autentico y representa lo que yo soy en ese momento de mi vida. Cuando evaluo lo que hago o dije, algunas veces puede ser que no sea apropiado, pero yo puedo mejorar y mantener las conductas que son posiotivas y que me permiten progresar. Yo puedo pensar, ver, sentir, hacer, crear y escuchar. Yo tengo todas la herramientos para sobrevivir y darle sentido a mi vida. yo puedo poner orden en mis cosas y en mi vida cotidiana. yo me pertenezco y en consecuencia yo puedo construirme a mi misma.Yo soy yo y yo estoy bien. (Adaptación de la declaración de estima de si mismo de Virginia Satir).