| Twins In Sngapore from
Indonesia hi again
sorry i am slow...
how are things going there?
i just wrote to ur sis. she can share that with u...
about translating some of my site...
anyhow, are you two roommates?
and could u tell me some things about what she was like
when she was young and how you and her were treated,
maybe differently, by your parents or what the
differences are between you two, especially emotionally.
by the way could you look at this page and tell me how
much u felt emotionally supported at home, given this
definition, by ur mom and then by your dad..
http://eqi.org/p3/its_not_you_its_who_you_are_with.htm
hug if u want one
(did either ur mom or dad give u hugs -- and did they
ever hit or smack you your sister? - and would you ever
hit a child? and do u think jesus ever would - ur
christian right? who is more religious, u or ur sis?)
bye for now
s
----- Original Message -----
From: Jessica
To: eqi.org2@gmx.com
Date: Mon, 31 Mar 2014 17:05:26 +0800
Subject: I wish you well
> Hi,
> my sister told me about you and how she contacted
you long ago when she
> was suicidal. I had recently visited your page and I
think you're a nice
> guy. I'm sorry that you're going through hardship
even though you've helped
> so many people. I hope you guys will be alright and
that good things await
> you
>
> Cheers,
> J
>
>
|
|
Thanks for replying
I'm going to try and confirm as much as I can. The job is
at a zoo near his house, running the rides like the ski
lift or carousel, contacting his employer sounds like a
good idea. I've talked to his parents on webcam and they
were very nice. I'll make a profile on the site too, just
in case. And thanks, for being protective :)
Yes I remember rosachenisis, that's great that she was
able to leave, and I'd be happy to talk to her!
- Marie
On Monday, April 21, 2014 1:06 PM,
hi mbh
nice to hear from u...
sounds pretty interesting. id feel better if u
confirmed some of the stuff. it almost sounds too good to
be true. but it it is all true id say its probably worth
taking a chance on.
id suggest actually talking to his parents on wecam, for
example, and talking to his employer.
what is the job btw?
also, in case it doesnt work out, id strongly suggest
making a profile on this site and starting to write to
pple in that city where he lives.
couchsurfing.com
maybe even one of them with good references would meet
him.
getting away now that ur free to do so sounds like a good
plan. im just feeling a bit protective of u.
btw
do u remember rosachenisis or something like that. her
name is actually angela. she is 19 now and she left her
abusive mom and family and is actually staying with my
sister for a while in indianapolis.
im gonna send a copy of this to her. she might be good to
talk to.
hugs
s.
----- Original Message -----
From: Marie
Date: Mon, 21 Apr 2014 09:46:26 -0700 (PDT)
Subject: I could use some advice -Mariebraveheart
> Hi Steve, I hope you're doing okay. I don't know if
you'd remember me, a few years ago we talked on chatango
about my problems with my mom and I sent you a drawing I
did and you put it on your site
here, http://eqi.org/marie.htm
I'm 18 now, things never really got better, they're
either the same or worse actually. But now that I'm 18 I
can leave. I met a friend online about a year ago and he
knows all about my situation, he and his parents invited
me to go and live with them in another state. He said
he'd pay for my plane ticket since I haven't got any
money or a job. He found a job for me at the same place
he works. I've skyped with him a lot and I met his
parents on there, I have him on facebook, and he's even
shown me his ID so I know he's real and not faking. He's
a really great guy and he's always been there when I
needed someone to talk to. It all sounds great, but I
wanted your advice... Should I go? I really want to but
I'm nervous about leaving my parents and going off to
live somewhere else. I could finally be free from my mom.
I'm pretty sure it's what I want to do, but I'd like your
opinion if you can give it to me.
Also I saw on EQI that you haven't been doing very well,
I don't know what you're going through, but I do hope
you'll feel better.
Thanks
-Marie
>
|
i feel so much love for these teens. so
protective of them. so much pain for how they have had to
live. -- because of society's lawa and beliefs... like
the belief they dont know what is best for them, and
their feelings are not important. and they are just
wanting attention and going thru a phase and so called
teenage angst
and the laws that make them what i call teen
prisoners
|
hi d
thanks for your reply. i forgot you don't have net access
on the weekends and i was afraid i wasn't going to hear
from you again because i suggested writing about you on
my site or for some other reason. i spend a lot of time
wondering things like that, usually wrong, but often
right. right enough to have become afraid of rejection by
people. especially the more i develop controversial ideas
which go against the mainstream.
anyhow, i wrote something which id like you to share with
your students who might potentially be emotionally
abused. in fact, id really like it if you would share
some of my ideas with your students. probably not many
will be significantly emotionally abused, but i suspect
that just by looking into their eyes, you will be able to
spot one in your classes.
what i'd like you to share is this....
"It'ts not you. It's who you are with."
Here is the page that goes along with that. I created it
yesterday
http://eqi.org/p3/its_not_you_its_who_you_are_with.htmDoes it make sense to you, or what do you think?
I feel encouraged that you wrote back. The fact that you
are in front of high school students, gives you a lot of
potential influence. Do you ever look at it that way?
I'd love it if you helped them learn a little about
emotional literacy for example.
On this page I have that free pdf along with others...
http://core.eqi.org/free_pdfs_from_eqi.htm
What name shall we call you, haha?
Thanks again for your mail.
It is the only mail I got in my inbox this morning. Since
I put that new contact page up, 99 percent of the people
have stopped writing me. I have mixed feelings about
that. I feel relieved I don't get so much mail I can't
respond to it, but sad that so few people are
able/willing to show some empathy.
Well that's all for now. I'd like to hear more about your
day, what classes you teach, about your favorite and
least favorite students and other teachers, and the
school director.
S.
----- Original Message -----
From:
To: eqi.org2
Date: Mon, 14 Apr 2014 10:16:52 +0300
Subject: Re: Steve (I hope this is you...), hoping to
encourage you.
> Hi Steve
>
> Hey, no problem. I hope things are going okay with
your friend. I felt good
> about the chat too. Hope you had a nice weekend and
that you're feeling a
> little better about things.
>
> I'd love to talk more, and yes it's nice to chat
with someone from the US
> :) I haven't seen your education page, I'll have to
look that up...
>
> I have no problem giving as much information as you
want/need, especially
> if it can potentially help somebody. As long as it
can't be traced back to
> me (I like the idea of a pseudonym) or my family,
I'm totally fine with
> that.
>
> Debra
>
>
> On Sat, Apr 12, 2014 at 11:10 AM, <eqi.org2>
wrote:
>
> > hi again debra
> >
> > im really sorry i left so fast before we had a
chance to talk more.
> >
> > i felt good, though, about the short chat we
had. what about you, how did
> > you feel about it?
> >
> > i would like to talk to you again, if thats ok
with you. i feel very
> > interested in your life now. i already feel
conncted a bit to you since
> > u are from the states, you have been
emotionally abused (i guess that is
> > fair to say, or wouldn't you call it actual
abuse), you place love above
> > denominations, and you are a teacher.
> >
> > i have a lot of ideas about education. have u
seen my education page yet?
> >
> > there is lots id like to talk to you about. but
first i want to clear up
> > how much i can say about you on my site. i
always respect ppl's need for
> > confidentiality, annonymity, yet i like to get
as close to real facts as
> > i can. i have a problem being taken seriously
by "mainstream"
> > psychologists and society in general so the
more real, verifiable data i
> > have the better. so please think about how you
want me to refer to you
> > for my site. and keep in mind that you will
always have a chance to edit
> > what i post by just letting me know. that is
the system i have always
> > used when i talk to people.
> >
> > so with that said i would propose that we give
you a first name like Debra
> > or something... And then we say you are
> > from America, working at a high school in
Eastern Europe. How does that
> > sound so far?
> >
> > Another idea I just had is that we could divide
you into two people. One
> > more "real" than the other. I assume
you don't want the world to know
> > about your family situation with your name on
it. So we could make one
> > identify for you when we talk about that. But
then I'd like to talk to
> > you about your view on god, society, education,
punishment for example,
> > and for that maybe we could use Debra C or
something,
> >
> > How does all of this sound so far?
> >
> > s
> >
> >
> >
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: Debra
> > To: eqi.org2
> > Date: Fri, 11 Apr 2014 20:50:11 +0300
> > Subject: Re: Steve (I hope this is you...),
hoping to encourage you.
> >
> > > Okay, i will look you up :) mine is ___.
> > >
> > > Actually, I still use my old college
e-mail, i no longer go there. I'm
> > > working as a high school teacher in ____
(which is where I use
> > > the internet). I'm not Baptist, more of a
non-denominational Christian.
> > I'm
> > > not big on the extra stuff that comes with
denominations. I prefer to
> > stick
> > > to just plain loving people, without all
the fluff.
> > >
> > > What about you? You seem pretty open and
non-judgemental, though I get
> > the
> > > impression that you're rather skeptical
and displeased with "religion".
> > >
> > >
> > > On Fri, Apr 11, 2014 at 8:34 PM,
<eqi.org2> wrote:
> > >
> > > >
> > > > ok it is ____
> > > >
> > > > what do u do at the school? i see it
is a baptist college, are u also
> > > > baptist?
> > > >
> > > > s.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > > From: Debra
> > > > To: eqi.org2
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Date: Fri, 11 Apr 2014 19:15:10 +0300
> > > > Subject: Re: Steve (I hope this is
you...), hoping to encourage you.
> > > >
> > > > > I'm glad it made you smile :)
Chatting on skype sounds great. Text is
> > > > > always good, and voice can be
arranged too depending on the time (I
> > work
> > > > at
> > > > > a school and basically bogart
their internet after hours because I
> > don't
> > > > > have it at home). What is your
skype address?
> > > > >
> > > > > Debra
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > > On Fri, Apr 11, 2014 at 7:01 PM,
<eqi.org2> wrote:
> > > > >
> > > > > > hi s
> > > > > >
> > > > > > thanks for ur message. it
made me smile. i really like the idea of
> > > > talking
> > > > > > to u. how woiuld u feel
about talking on skype? either voice or
> > > > text....
> > > > > >
> > > > > > s.
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > > > ----- Original Message
-----
> > > > > > From: Debra
> > > > > > To: eqi.org2
> > > > > > Date: Fri, 11 Apr 2014
18:55:57 +0300
> > > > > > Subject: Steve (I hope this
is you...), hoping to encourage you.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > > Hi Steve,
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > My name is Debra. I
discovered your website today, and I just
> > want
> > > > you
> > > > > > to
> > > > > > > know that it has
helped me alot to come to terms (and actually
> > label)
> > > > > > what
> > > > > > > I went through as a
child and adolescent. Things have come up
> > > > recently
> > > > > > that
> > > > > > > have forced me to
really dissect all of that. (but enough about
> > me :)
> > > > ).
> > > > > > I
> > > > > > > just wanted you to
know that the way you so obviously care about
> > the
> > > > hurt
> > > > > > > people experience and
your availability to talk with them is so
> > > > > > > encouraging. You are
doing something, I feel, very important and
> > > > > > necessary,
> > > > > > > not to mention rare.
> > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > I noticed your comment
about how things aren't going so well in
> > your
> > > > life
> > > > > > > right now. I just
wanted you to know what a positive impact you
> > are
> > > > > > making,
> > > > > > > and to give you an
outlet to talk to somebody who can empathize
> > with
> > > > > > daily
> > > > > > > doses of pain
(emotional and physical). Please, please feel free
> > to
> > > > talk
> > > > > > > about what's going on
with you. This is what you have done for
> > > > others,
> > > > > > it's
> > > > > > > about time you had
some objective ears waiting to listen to
> > *you.*
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > This may seem strange
(I don't usually do this sort of thing)
> > since
> > > > we've
> > > > > > > never met, but I find
comfort in comforting others. I hope this
> > > > helps.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Once again, feel free
to chat. I would love to hear what you have
> > to
> > > > say.
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Kind Regards,
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > > Debra
> > > > > > >
> > > > > > >
> > > > > >
> > > > >
> > > > >
> > > >
> > >
> > >
> >
>
>
|
|