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In 2006 I decided to start this new page to bring together all my writing on this.
By the way, the first time I thought of this term was when Daniel Goelman's assistant asked if I had any questions for Goleman. I asked how he would define an emotionally intelligent soldier. Not surprisingly, he didn't address my question.
Recent updates -
Howard Zinn - Howard is someone who I would call an emotionally intelligent former soldier. He was a pilot woring for the American government in the second world war and bombed many places, killing many people. He later became a strong peace advocate. He is best known for his book The People's History of the United States.
Here is one video clip of him talking about the military records of presidents.
Note from Steve: Please learn about Brandon Neely if you don't know him already. I have the highest respect and admiration for him. Here is one video and article. Please also watch his own two statements on his video channel.
(When I made a short entry on him, I hadn't seen him speak or learned much about him..)
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|This page was created March 27, 2006 in Salta, Argentina by S. Hein
|A possible definition of a
successful military leader . S. Hein
Here is something I wrote today when I was writing about sports, schools and soldier preparation:
|Another teen tells me she doesn't
- S. Hein
Here is part of an email I got from another sensitive teenager.
Recv'd March 27, 2006
With all the pressure to perform in not only academics but sports, combined with emotionally unsupportive parents, these are the kinds of teens who self-harm. I firmly believe they are the among the most innately emotionally intelligent among us. They simply are not valued for their gifts in our competitive, violent world. They don't fit in. They are not understood. They feel alone.
I feel somewhat encouraged that with the Internet they can now begin to meet each other and find out that there are other intelligent, sensitive people who don't like violence and who care about others so they will feel less alone and less suicidal. I hope that they will be able to form friendships and support groups and eventually make a positive difference in the world as adults.
I am putting this under the emotionally intelligent soldier page because I want to show the link between the sports/competition mentality and the war mentality. I want to highlight that truly emotionally intelligent people, who have lived in emotionally supportive and validating environments, would be opposed to war and would work to stop it, not participate in it. Therefore the emotionally intelligent soldier cannot exist. If he or she found himself in the military, they would leave at the first opportunity. If all humans followed this model, there would be no one left to fight the wars that the government leaders talk the people into
|The difference between the
emotionally intelligent soldier and former soldier
As I was writing editorial 62, I said something about the different kinds of education. This led me to start thinking about the difference between what we might call an emotionally intelligent soldier and an emotionally intelligent former soldier.
I would say that the emotionally intelligent soldier cannot exist. It is a contradiction in terms. Yet a person who is emotionally intelligent and then leaves the military and tries to prevent wars could be called an emotionally intelligent former soldier.
To summarize we might say that some people might say that an emotionally intelligent solider is successful at winning wars, but I would say that an emotionally intelligent former soldier is successful in preventing them.
|Cutting grass with a pocket knife
A friend told me when he was in the Bulgarian army they ordered the new trainess to cut grass with a pocket knife. This evidently was to help teach them to be obedient, no matter how they felt about the command. Of course, they would be punished if they disobeyed.
In the recent past, all men in Bulgaria had to "serve" in the army. (It might be more accurate to say had to "obey" in the army.) Since my friend was a university student he had to obey army commanders for six months rather than a year.
How would an emotionally intelligent person respond to this at the time and then once they were no longer afraid of disobeying?
|In my editorial number 62 I said "I am really
just waiting now to see how many people will claim that
emotional intelligence also helps someone be a better
soldier." Well, I found this article about emotional
intelligence that says just that.
I will be posting my comments about it later...
Posted by Lorelei Kelly
March 18, 2005
Remember Emotional Intelligence?
Ten years ago, Dan Goleman's bestseller shifted our
thinking about effective leadership. His book declared
that a high IQ is only part of the picture, and that
understanding and relating well with others is often more
important than run of the mill smarts because
self-awareness and the ability to build lasting
meaningful relationships are fundamental keys to success.
It is unlikely that the rest of the world will forgive and forget easily. Collective amnesia aside, Bolton and Wolfowitz threaten to make our situation worse.
|Below is part of a thread which
has a comment saying:
"Being an emotionally intelligent soldier is a contradiction in terms..."
Being an emotionally
intelligent soldier is a contradiction in terms, and we
could talk about emotionally-enlightened soldiers, but
Google didn't find any on January 31, 2008. Maybe the CIA
is looking for some of them with satellite technology,
though the optic resolution probably isn't sharp enough
|Google Search Results - April 26,
These results say a lot for themselves:
4 Results for "emotionally intelligent soldiers".
3,160 Results for "intelligent soldiers"
222,000 Results for "christian soldiers"
274,000 Results for "dead soldiers".
Note: The fact that people around the world are not using the term "emotionally intelligent soldier" says a lot. It strongly implies that people just "know" that it is contradictory and simply doesn't make sense. This is encouraging. What would be more encouraging is if there were such a low number of results for "Christian soldiers." This seems to be another contradiction in terms.
Here is part of a speech made by Butler, a former American soldier:
My original writing about an emotionally intelligent soldier - ei_ed26.htm
Editorial about schools, sports, soldiers and emotional intelligence ei_ed61.htm
Another teen tells me she doesn't like sports
US Marine Throws Puppy Off Cliff puppy.htm