| EQI.org Home | Human Emotional Needs Needs Conflicts I find it very helpful to look at conflicts in terms of needs conflicts. For example, I was just thinking of writing about how much time alone I need. I am working in a KFC now, in a city in Malaysia called Kota Kinabalu. ha ha. Yes it is really a city. I never dreamed I would come here when I was planning my career in my 20's back in the USA. Anyhow, I need a certain amount of time alone. To write. To work. Or at least what I call working. This, to me is "work." ha ha. But it is also, sometimes enjoyable. Usually it is healthy for me because I can express myself and I know what I do helps people and people read it. Most people in the world don't understand me or why things bother me so much or why I swear etc. But a few people who read this site do. And that means a lot to me. But back to needs conflicts, let me call them NC's. This morning my partner and I had an NC. I was cold. She was hot. We were sleeping on two sides of the same room. The AC was blowing on me, passing over her. So I was a little cold. But then, as I was laying there thinking, letting my thoughts follow their natural course, I was distracted by a "beep." It was the sound of the air conditioner acknowledging that my partner had sent it a command. I was afraid she was hot and just made it colder. Then a few minutes later I heard another distracting "beep." Then a few minutes later I heard another one. I didn't know what was happening. But it seemed to be getting colder in the room. I hoped she had changed the setting so it wouldn't be so cold, but I wasn't sure. After a few more frustrating minutes I decided I was too cold so I got up and left and went outside. Where it was too hot. ha ha. I also thought again of how bad it is when you aren't in control of your environment and getting your needs met. But that is another issue. I will quickly make a page on it now to come back to later. Here is that new page. Ok that is all the writing for now... Thanks for reading. S. Hein |
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