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Here are some articles sent to me by Brooke and Kel. Posted here June 2007.

School penalizes students for hugs, high-fives

The War Against Learning

Trashing Teens

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See also

Teen Prison, Hugging in School, Legal Ways to Hurt Children and Teens

 


School penalizes students for hugs, high-fives

Strict no-contact rule, meant to stem violence, has some pushing for change

VIENNA, Va. - A rule against physical contact at a Fairfax County middle
school is so strict that students can be sent to the principal's office for
hugging, holding hands or even high-fiving.

Unlike some schools in the Washington area, which ban fighting or
inappropriate touching, Kilmer Middle School in Vienna bans all touching —
and that has some parents lobbying for a change.

Hugging was Hal Beaulieu's crime when he sat next to his girlfriend at lunch
a few months ago and put his arm around her shoulder. He was given a
warning, but told that repeat missteps could lead to detention.

"I think hugging is a good thing," said Hal, a seventh-grader. "I put my arm
around her. It was like for 15 seconds. I didn't think it would be a big
deal."

But at a school of 1,100 students that was meant to accommodate 850, school
officials think some touching can turn into a big deal. They've seen pokes
lead to fights, gang signs in the form of handshakes or girls who are
uncomfortable being hugged but embarrassed to say anything.

"You get into shades of gray," Kilmer Principal Deborah Hernandez said. "The
kids say, 'If he can high-five, then I can do this.' "

Hernandez said the no-touching rule is meant to ensure that all students are
comfortable and crowded hallways and lunchrooms stay safe. She said school
officials are allowed to use their judgment in enforcing the rule.
Typically, only repeat offenders are reprimanded.

'Making out goes too far'
But such a strict policy doesn't seem necessary to 13-year-old Hal and his
parents, who have written a letter to the county school board asking for a
review of the rule. Hugging is encouraged in their home, and their son has
been taught to greet someone with a handshake.

Hal said he feels he knows what's appropriate and what's not.

"I think you should be able to shake hands, high-five and maybe a quick
hug," he said. "Making out goes too far."

His parents said they agree that teenagers need to have clear limits but
don't want their son to be taught that physical contact is bad.

"How do kids learn what's right and what's wrong?" Henri Beaulieu asked.
"They are all smart kids, and they can draw lines. If they cross them, they
can get in trouble. But I don't think it would happen too often."

 


The war against learning

 

The War Against Learning

Never let school interfere with your education.
~ Mark Twain

A recurring theme in my writing is that the most important question confronting mankind is the epistemological one: how do we know what we know? If we are to live well, we must learn not only about the nature of our world, but how to function effectively within it. How do we organize our experiences, and who helps us to do so, and by what criteria do we seek reliable patterns of understanding for living in a complex world?

In an institutionally-dominated world, it has largely been taken for granted that institutions should direct the education of children, so that they will grow up conforming their lives to the interests of the established order. Chapter 12 of my book, Calculated Chaos, provides a detailed exploration of the processes by which government schools help to politicize young minds.

Beyond the more obvious rituals and catechisms by which children are conditioned in the religion of statism (e.g., saluting the flag, reciting the “pledge of allegiance”), there lurks an even more sinister premise that is utterly destructive of personalized learning: the idea that knowledge is a quality bestowed by some (i.e., teachers) upon others (i.e., students). Learning becomes not something you do, but something done to you. Your purpose in being in school is not to enhance your creativity and understanding of the world, but to adopt “success” as your motivating standard. “Success,” of course, is measured in terms of how well you have internalized the institutional mindset.

Children who stay away from school because they do not find it consistent with their interests are labeled “truants,” to be hunted down and – along with their parents – criminally prosecuted. Children who attend school, but find the teacher’s pedantically-delivered agenda of less interest than a subject-matter of their own choosing, are diagnosed as having an “attention-deficit disorder,” the remedy for which may include behavior-modifying drugs. In trying to figure out why so many children find forced-schooling not to their liking, the child becomes the focus of the problem. It is never the school system that is at fault, or whose underlying premises need questioning.

Recent news stories illustrate the problems that can arise when the state – or any other institution – presumes to direct the course of learning. One report focuses on the policies of a Virginia middle school that prohibit students from having any “physical contact” with one another. The rule includes not only fighting, but shaking hands, hugging, patting a friend on the back, holding hands, and giving one another “high-fives.” One school official defended this “no touching” policy on the ground that, while schools can teach students an abstract principle of “keeping your hands to yourself,” there is not always an adult present to direct the student as to how to implement the rule in a given situation.

No more telling admission of both the absurdity and the failure of vertically-structured learning can be offered. No better expression of the need for children to learn how to negotiate their relationships with one another on their own, without state-licensed school teachers and administrators patrolling the halls on the lookout for “delinquents” who hug! (Will the offense be refined to include “suspicion of intent to show affection”?)

One of the most important things children have to learn in growing up is how to deal with one another. If Mark goes too far in giving Lisa an unwanted hug, he might get his face slapped, a consequence Mark will register in his thinking about how to deal with girls. If Sally becomes too gossipy about her friends, she might discover a dwindling number of peers who want to associate with her. Through the responses youngsters make toward one another’s conduct, they learn to distinguish a friendly push from a more aggressive shove and, in the process, modify their behavior.

But the institutionalized enunciation of precise rules eliminates this negotiation process. Like economic transactions, the presumption is that external authorities must direct conduct. Once the policy has been announced – as the aforesaid school administrator tells us – there must be someone (i.e., school officials) to tell the students how to implement the rule. To think otherwise, is to put upon individual students the burden of discriminating among various behavioral options. Discrimination involves the making of individualized distinctions, a practice which, by its nature, involves personal choices to be made in the face of concrete circumstances. But, as we know, “discrimination” – being an individualized act – has become one of the cardinal sins in the statist religion. In a collectivistic society, all expressions of individualism must be eliminated; general rules, applicable to all – no matter their absurdity in given circumstances – must be rigidly enforced, lest even the faintest impression remain that there be some realm within which individuals are responsible only to themselves. As I write this article, a blogger informs me that in the grocery store where he shops, he saw a checkout clerk ask a man – in his mid-60s – for identification. A state law makes it unlawful to sell alcohol to a minor, and this clerk was unprepared to distinguish a teenager from a man of retirement age! Perhaps this clerk had learned, through his school experiences, the importance of making robotic responses to abstractions. People are not to be allowed to discriminate as to which criteria are appropriate grounds upon which to discriminate.

In a collective world, “liberty” and “free choice” represent “loopholes” needing to be filled with more rules.

This war against learning infects virtually all areas of childhood activity. Even play is being taken away from children. I have long been a critic of adult-organized, adult-run, adult-coached, sports for children. Play is an important activity of childhood, and yet most adults think it appropriate for them to usurp and manage this otherwise spontaneous and autonomous activity. I was fortunate enough to have grown up before the days in which “little league” baseball, football, soccer, basketball, etc., took over children’s parks and playgrounds.

Like the government school system, adult-run sports use children for adult purposes – however well-intended those purposes might be – to which the children are expected to be subservient. The official motto of Little League Baseball is “Character, Courage, Loyalty.” Is play now intended as a means for reinforcing the pledge of allegiance upon the minds of children? Is this why uniforms are consistently adorned with American flags? In my youth, we played our games purely for the fun of it. None of us thought that, when we gathered for a game on Saturday morning, we were making a political commitment.

Nor did we play in order to satisfy any expectations of our parents. Indeed, our parents would not have dreamed of invading our playtime by showing up for our games and, had they done so, we would have been humiliated. We played for our mutual enjoyment and, in the course of doing so, we learned the subtle arts of negotiation that make civil society possible. We organized our own teams, scheduled our own games with other teams, and even hired impartial umpires (i.e., older kids) for the “important” games. If such an umpire was not available, we were honest enough to acknowledge “balls” or “strikes” or “outs” with one another knowing that, if we did not, the game would quickly end. How well we did this may have contributed to the development of our “character,” but only as an unintended consequence of what we were doing, not as a purpose.

Jean Piaget and others have written of both the nature and importance of children’s self-directed play. You may recall from your own childhood – assuming you grew up without adults dominating your every activity and defining your experiences for you – how the games you played with others were conducted on quite informal, ad hoc rules upon which you agreed. Learning how to adapt – spontaneously and autonomously – to the inconstant conditions of the world, provides us with a far more reliable basis for our behavior than do institutional mandates, crafted and enforced upon young minds by updated versions of the Code of Hammurabi.

How do our adult lives get influenced by how we grew up? If we failed to learn an individualized basis for judging the propriety of our actions; if the development of a character that was unable to discriminate between what was factual and what was only fashionable became stunted; if our behavior was directed by abstract propositions formulated and interpreted for us by external authorities, how might our adult lives be affected?

The much reported – and little examined – case involving lacrosse players at Duke University provides some insight. By now, even those addicted to Faux News know that phony accusations of rape were made against three young white men by a black woman. Absolutely no evidence supported the charge other than the accusation by the woman, whose story underwent constant change. A dishonest district attorney – seeing the opportunity of exploiting the situation on behalf of his re-election campaign – failed to disclose exculpatory evidence to defense attorneys, and made inflammatory press conferences his principal prosecutorial tool. His conduct was so outrageous that even the North Carolina bar stripped him of his license to practice.

What was most telling about this so-called “case” was not the dishonest nature of the prosecution – criminal defense lawyers can provide a litany of prosecutorial misconduct to match Mr. Nifong’s. It was the artless response of most members of the mainstream media, along with the knee-jerk reaction of the Duke University administration, as well as large numbers of Duke faculty and students, that showed a complete collapse of rational thinking. People who had grown up with an appreciation for being able to discriminate between an allegation and a fact, would have quickly asked for a showing of the evidence for this charge. Such skills were at the base of what, in my youth, was one of the highest compliments one could pay to another: “you have a discriminating mind.” In today’s marketplace of collective madness, a “discriminating mind” stands as an accusation!

Duke University – long respected for its intellectual excellence – suffered a blow to its reputation from which it may not soon recover. While a number of intellectually honest and courageous students and faculty members insisted upon an evidentiary basis for the charges against these three students, others showed little attraction to the niceties of due process. Sadly, many members of the black community – whose electoral support Mr. Nifong cynically relied upon during this sordid affair – failed to see how their willingness to equate an accusation with fact played by the same vicious and depraved rules that led some whites to lynch blacks within this same state generations earlier.

One might have hoped that, within the Duke University community, reason and an appeal to fact might have prevailed. Such was not the case, however, as these three men – as well as other lacrosse team players who had not even been accused – had to endure slurs and threats from others as they walked across campus and sat in their classrooms. Discriminatory thinking was abandoned long ago by the oracles of “political correctness.” In its place was erected the monolith of the abstract principle, whose application to a given set of circumstances was left to the interpretation of self-appointed authorities – and certainly not to ordinary folk who had been carefully nurtured to distrust their own capacities for making distinctions. And so, like the denizens of Orwell’s Animal Farm, many Duke faculty members, students, and administrators began parroting the crude, collective catechism “black female good; white male bad” which, to their reactive minds, provided a sole and sufficient basis for their thinking.

In the aftermath of Michael Nifong’s disbarment, it may be time for intelligent minds to ask if others ought not be defrocked of their licenses to competently and honestly pursue their trades. If Duke University seeks to rehabilitate its reputation, it might want to consider revoking the tenure of those faculty members and administrators who so woefully failed to exercise the barest attributes of intellectual proficiency: the recourse to reason and evidence as the basis for drawing conclusions.

If civilized society is to be possible, children – whether in their pre-teenage or college years – need to learn from themselves and one another how to negotiate for the kind of conduct which, alone, makes decent society possible. In the course of doing so, they require the loving assistance of adults who teach best by the examples they set for their own lives, and who appreciate the importance of staying out of the way of children as they struggle for their own independent development.

June 21, 2007

Butler Shaffer teaches at the Southwestern University School of Law. He is the author of Calculated Chaos: Institutional Threats to Peace and Human Survival.

Copyright © 2007 LewRockwell.com

From http://www.lewrockwell.com/shaffer/shaffer158.html


Trashing Teens

 

Trashing Teens

Psychologist Robert Epstein argues in a provocative book, "The Case Against Adolescence," that teens are far more competent than we assume, and most of their problems stem from restrictions placed on them.

By: Hara Estroff Marano

Psychologist Robert Epstein spoke to Psychology Today's Hara Estroff Marano about the legal and emotional constraints on American youth.

HEM: Why do you believe that adolescence is an artificial extension of childhood?

RE: In every mammalian species, immediately upon reaching puberty, animals function as adults, often having offspring. We call our offspring "children" well past puberty. The trend started a hundred years ago and now extends childhood well into the 20s. The age at which Americans reach adulthood is increasing—30 is the new 20—and most Americans now believe a person isn't an adult until age 26.

The whole culture collaborates in artificially extending childhood, primarily through the school system and restrictions on labor. The two systems evolved together in the late 19th-century; the advocates of compulsory-education laws also pushed for child-labor laws, restricting the ways young people could work, in part to protect them from the abuses of the new factories. The juvenile justice system came into being at the same time. All of these systems isolate teens from adults, often in problematic ways.

Our current education system was created in the late 1800s and early 1900s, and was modeled after the new factories of the industrial revolution. Public schools, set up to supply the factories with a skilled labor force, crammed education into a relatively small number of years. We have tried to pack more and more in while extending schooling up to age 24 or 25, for some segments of the population. In general, such an approach still reflects factory thinking—get your education now and get it efficiently, in classrooms in lockstep fashion. Unfortunately, most people learn in those classrooms to hate education for the rest of their lives.

The factory system doesn't work in the modern world, because two years after graduation, whatever you learned is out of date. We need education spread over a lifetime, not jammed into the early years—except for such basics as reading, writing, and perhaps citizenship. Past puberty, education needs to be combined in interesting and creative ways with work. The factory school system no longer makes sense.

What are some likely consequences of extending one's childhood?

Imagine what it would feel like—or think back to what it felt like—when your body and mind are telling you you're an adult while the adults around you keep insisting you're a child. This infantilization makes many young people angry or depressed, with their distress carrying over into their families and contributing to our high divorce rate. It's hard to keep a marriage together when there is constant conflict with teens.

We have completely isolated young people from adults and created a peer culture. We stick them in school and keep them from working in any meaningful way, and if they do something wrong we put them in a pen with other "children." In most nonindustrialized societies, young people are integrated into adult society as soon as they are capable, and there is no sign of teen turmoil. Many cultures do not even have a term for adolescence. But we not only created this stage of life: We declared it inevitable. In 1904, American psychologist G. Stanley Hall said it was programmed by evolution. He was wrong.

How is adolescent behavior shaped by societal strictures?

One effect is the creation of a new segment of society just waiting to consume, especially if given money to spend. There are now massive industries—music, clothing, makeup—that revolve around this artificial segment of society and keep it going, with teens spending upward of $200 billion a year almost entirely on trivia.

Ironically, because minors have only limited property rights, they don't have complete control over what they have bought. Think how bizarre that is. If you, as an adult, spend money and bring home a toy, it's your toy and no one can take it away from you. But with a 14-year-old, it's not really his or her toy. Young people can't own things, can't sign contracts, and they can't do anything meaningful without parental permission—permission that can be withdrawn at any time. They can't marry, can't have sex, can't legally drink. The list goes on. They are restricted and infantilized to an extraordinary extent.

In recent surveys I've found that American teens are subjected to more than 10 times as many restrictions as mainstream adults, twice as many restrictions as active-duty U.S. Marines, and even twice as many as incarcerated felons. Psychologist Diane Dumas and I also found a correlation between infantilization and psychological dysfunction. The more young people are infantilized, the more psychopathology they show.

What's more, since 1960, restrictions on teens have been accelerating. Young people are restricted in ways no adult would be—for example, in some states they are prohibited from entering tanning salons or getting tattoos.

You believe in the inherent competence of teens. What's your evidence?

Dumas and I worked out what makes an adult an adult. We came up with 14 areas of competency—such as interpersonal skills, handling responsibility, leadership—and administered tests to adults and teens in several cities around the country. We found that teens were as competent or nearly as competent as adults in all 14 areas. But when adults estimate how teens will score, their estimates are dramatically below what the teens actually score.

Other long-standing data show that teens are at least as competent as adults. IQ is a quotient that indicates where you stand relative to other people your age; that stays stable. But raw scores of intelligence peak around age 14-15 and shrink thereafter. Scores on virtually all tests of memory peak between ages 13 and 15. Perceptual abilities all peak at that age. Brain size peaks at 14. Incidental memory—what you remember by accident, and not due to mnemonics—is remarkably good in early to mid teens and practically nonexistent by the '50s and '60s.

If teens are so competent, why do they not show it?

What teens do is a small fraction of what they are capable of doing. If you mistreat or restrict them, performance suffers and is extremely misleading. The teens put before us as examples by, say, the music industry tend to be highly incompetent. Teens encourage each other to perform incompetently. One of the anthems of modern pop, "Smells Like Teen Spirit" by Nirvana, is all about how we need to behave like we're stupid.

Teens in America are in touch with their peers on average 65 hours a week, compared to about four hours a week in preindustrial cultures. In this country, teens learn virtually everything they know from other teens, who are in turn highly influenced by certain aggressive industries. This makes no sense. Teens should be learning from the people they are about to become. When young people exit the education system and are dumped into the real world, which is not the world of Britney Spears, they have no idea what's going on and have to spend considerable time figuring it out.

There are at least 20 million young people between 13 and 17, and if they are as competent as I think they are, we are just throwing them away.

Do you believe that young people are capable of maintaining long-term relationships and capable of moral reasoning?

Everyone who has looked at the issue has found that teens can experience the love that adults experience. The only difference is that they change partners more, because they are warehoused together, told it's puppy love and not real, and are unable to marry without permission. The assumption is they are not capable. But many distinguished couples today—Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter, George and Barbara Bush—married young and have very successful long-term relationships.

According to census data, the divorce rate of males marrying in their teens is lower than that of males marrying in their 20s. Overall the divorce rate of people marrying in their teens is a little higher. Does that mean we should prohibit them from marrying? That's absurd. We should aim to reverse that, telling young people the truth: that they are capable of creating long-term stable relationships. They might fail—but adults do every day, too.

The "friends with benefits" phenomenon is a by-product of isolating adolescents, warehousing them together, and delivering messages that they are incapable of long-term relationships. Obviously they have strong sexual urges and act on them in ways that are irresponsible. We can change that by letting them know they are capable of having more than a hookup.

Studies show that we reach the highest levels of moral reasoning while we're still in our teens. Those capabilities parallel higher-order cognitive reasoning abilities, which peak fairly early. Across the board, teens are far more capable than we think they are.

What's the worst part of the current way we treat teens?

The adversarial relationship between parents and offspring is terrible; it hurts both parents and young people. It tears some people to shreds; they don't understand why it is happening and can't get out of it. They don't realize they are caught in a machine that's driving them apart from their offspring—and it's unnecessary.

What can be done?

I believe that young people should have more options—the option to work, marry, own property, sign contracts, start businesses, make decisions about health care and abortions, live on their own—every right, privilege, or responsibility an adult has. I advocate a competency-based system that focuses on the abilities of the individual. For some it will mean more time in school combined with work, for others it will mean that at age 13 or 15 they can set up an Internet business. Others will enter the workforce and become some sort of apprentice. The exploitative factories are long gone; competent young people deserve the chance to compete where it counts, and many will surprise us.

It's a simple matter to develop competency tests to determine what rights a young person should be given, just as we now have competency tests for driving. When you offer significant rights for passing such a test, it's highly motivating; people who can't pass a high-school history test will never give up trying to pass the written test at the DMV, and they'll virtually always succeed. We need to offer a variety of tests, including a comprehensive test to allow someone to become emancipated without the need for court action. When we dangle significant rewards in front of our young people—including the right to be treated like an adult—many will set aside the trivia of teen culture and work hard to join the adult world.

Are you saying that teens should have more freedom?

No, they already have too much freedom—they are free to spend, to be disrespectful, to stay out all night, to have sex and take drugs. But they're not free to join the adult world, and that's what needs to change.

Unfortunately, the current systems are so entrenched that parents can do little to counter infantilization. No one parent can confer property rights, even though they would be highly motivating. Too often, giving children more responsibility translates into giving them household chores, which just causes more tension and conflict. We have to think beyond chores to meaningful responsibility - responsibility tied to significant rights.

With a competency-based system in place, our focus will start to change. We'll become more conscious of the remarkable things teens can do rather than on culture-driven misbehavior. With luck, we might even be able to abolish adolescence.

http://psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-20070302-000002.html

 

 


The Adolescent Squeeze

 

Before 1850, laws restricting the behavior of teens were few and far between. Compulsory education laws evolved in tandem with laws restricting labor by young people. Beginning in 1960, the number of laws infantilizing adolescents accelerated dramatically. You may have had a paper route when you were 12, but your children can't.



1600s

  • 1641 Massachusetts law prohibits people under 16 from "smiting" their parents

1800s

  • 1836 Massachusetts passes first law requiring minimal schooling for people under 15 working in factories
  • 1848 Pennsylvania sets 12 as minimum work age for some jobs
  • 1852 Massachusetts passes first universal compulsory education law in U.S., requires three months of schooling for all young people ages 8-14
  • 1880s Some states pass laws restricting various behaviors by young people: smoking, singing on the streets, prostitution, "incorrigible" behavior
  • 1881 American Federation of Labor calls on states to ban people under 14 from working
  • 1898 World's first juvenile court established in Illinois—constitutional rights of minors effectively taken away

1900s

  • 1903 Illinois requires school attendance and restricts youth labor
  • 1918 All states have compulsory education laws in place
  • 1933 First federal law restricting drinking by young people
  • 1936 & 1938 First successful federal laws restricting labor by young people, establishing 16 and 18 as minimum ages for work; still in effect
  • 1940 Most states have laws in place restricting driving by people under 16
  • 1968 Supreme Court upholds states' right to prohibit sale of obscene materials to minors
  • 1968 Movie rating system established to restrict young people from certain films
  • 1970s Supreme Court upholds laws restricting young women's right to abortion
  • 1970s Dramatic increase in involuntary electroshock therapy (ECT) of teens
  • 1980s Many cities and states pass laws restricting teens' access to arcades and other places of amusement; Supreme Court upholds such laws in 1989
  • 1980s Courts uphold states' right to prohibit sale of lottery tickets to minors
  • 1980 to 1998 Rate of involuntary commitment of minors to mental institutions increases 300-400 percent
  • 1984 First national law effectively raising drinking age to 21
  • 1988 Supreme Court denies freedom of press to school newspapers
  • 1989 Missouri court upholds schools' right to prohibit dancing
  • 1989 Court rules school in Florida can ban salacious works by Chaucer and Aristophanes
  • 1990s Curfew laws for young people sweep cities and states
  • 1990s Dramatic increase in use of security systems in schools
  • 1992 Federal law prohibits sale of tobacco products to minors
  • 1997 New federal law makes easier involuntary commitment of teens

2000s

  • 2000+ New laws restricting minors' rights to get tattoos, piercings, and to enter tanning salons spread through U.S.
  • 2000+ Tougher driving laws sweeping through states: full driving rights obtained gradually over a period of years
  • 2000+ Dramatic increase in zero-tolerance laws in schools, resulting in suspensions or dismissals for throwing spitballs, making gun gestures with hand, etc.
  • 2000+ New procedures and laws making it easier to prosecute minors as adults

Currently spreading nationwide:

  • New rules prohibiting cell phones in schools or use of cell phones by minors while driving
  • Libraries and schools block access to Internet material by minors
  • New dress code rules in schools
  • New rules restricting wearing of potentially offensive clothing or accessories in schools
  • New laws prohibiting teens from attending parties where alcohol is served (even if they're not drinking)
  • New laws restricting teens' access to shopping malls
  • Tracking devices routinely installed in cell phones and cars of teens
  • New availability of home drug tests for teens
  • New laws prohibiting minors from driving with any alcohol in bloodstream (zero-tolerance)
  • Proposals for longer school days, longer school year, and addition of grades 13 and 14 to school curriculum under discussion

http://www.psychologytoday.com/rss/index.php?term=pto-20070302-000002&page=4