EQI 12 Step Program - An Alternative
|1. We became aware that
the emotional dysfunction in our childhood
families damaged us greatly -- to the extent that
our lives had become unmanageable.
|1. We admitted we
were powerless over alcohol -- that our lives had
|2. We came to see a need
for changes in our lives, and to believe that we
had the power and resources needed to make these
|2. Came to
believe that a power greater than ourselves could
restore us to sanity.
|3. Decided to take
responsibility for improving our emotional health
|3. Made a
decision to turn our lives over to
"God" as we understand him.
|4. Made a thorough &
realistic assessment of our lives, including our
feelings and beliefs about ourselves; about our
past actions; about others; about our families;
about our cultures; religious organizations and
countries, and about life itself.
Began to use a standard of healthy
or unheathly, rather than right/wrong, good/bad
make this assessment.
|4. Made a
searching and fearless moral inventory of
|5. Acknowledged painful
memories, feelings and actions to ourselves and
shared them with another person.
|5. Admitted to
"God," to ourselves and to another
human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
|6. Felt ready to improve
ourselves, to decrease the pain in our lives and
to increase our happiness.
|6. Were entirely
ready to have "God" remove all of these
defects of character.
|7. Began working on
ourselves. Began asking people we trust for
honest feedback about us and began to listen,
even when we felt hurt, scared or insecure and
defensive by what they said.
|7. Humbly asked
him to remove my shortcomings.
|8. Made a list of all
persons who had harmed us and who we had harmed
and became willing to directly express our true
feelings to such people in both cases.
|8. Made a list of
all persons we had harmed and became willing to
make amends to them all.
|9. Made direct amends to
people wherever possible and practical. Asked how
we could make restitution; what would help them
feel better. Apologized and asked for
forgiveness. Forgave ourselves when we had done
all we could, yet were not forgiven.
|9. Made direct
amends to such people wherever possible, except
when to do so would injure them or others
|10. Continued to identify
and express our true feelings and unmet needs, and to become more emotionally
honest, including promptly admiting our mistakes
and asking others how they felt regarding our
|10. Continued to
take personal inventory and when we were wrong
promptly admitted it.
|11. Sought healthier ways
to manage our negative feelings and thoughts, and
worked to strengthen our belief that we each can
make a unique contribution to evolution and
survival of the human species.
through prayer and meditation to improve our
conscious contact with "God" as we
understood him, praying only for knowledge of his
will for us and the power to carry that out.
|12. Having had an
emotional awakening as a result of these steps,
we tried to share our experience with others, and
to practice high emotional enlightenment in all
|12. Having had a
spiritual awakening as a result of these steps,
we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and
to practice these principles in all our affairs.