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Connection Between Suicide, Self-Destructive Behavior
May 28, 2008 I strongly disagree with what Mayer and Salovey have to say about the connection between EI, suicide and self-destructive behavior. I have written about this in various places but today I realized that I don't have one article which really shows clearly and directly what they believe, or at least strongly suggest. So today I have copied this from one of my previous articles. I was inspired to create this page as I was writing about Brian Rand, a US soldier who killed himself.
Here is what Peter Salovey and Jack Mayer wrote in their first important paper on EI in 1990:
And here is what Jack Mayer currently says on his website:
The reason I strongly disagree with the Mayer and Salovey is because of my direct experiences with abused, suicidal, depressed and (many times) smoking, drinking and drug-using teenagers. These teenagers are sensitive and intelligent. Whether they are "emotionally intelligent" depends only on the definition of EI which is used.
Amina Filali, 16, Suicide
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Here is a quote from an article about Brian Rand, a US soldier who killed himself after being sent to Iraq.
Now compare this to what Mayer and Salovey say about the "High EI individual". They say such a person avoids "violent episodes with others." So we might ask ourselves whether Brian's violence towards his wife was more a factor of his innate low EI or of the fact that he was trained to be a soldier and then was ordered to go to Iraq where he eventually killed someone as part of his "duty" to his country?
I wonder if the so called experts would say that Amina Filali had low emotional intelligence since she killed herself after being forced to marry and live with a man who had raped her when she was 15 years old.