Feeling Plagiarized

By inclusive-solutions.com

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By a blogger http://www.polyvore.com/know_why_people_kill_themselves/set?id=24561942

I said "I know why people kill themselves. I can understand why people give up." a long time ago on this page...

http://www.eqi.org/ts2.htm

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By Mr V. C. Pandey of India - see below

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Note to Mr Pandey if you read this....If I am mistaken about this, please let me know. S. Hein

While doing some searches I found a book written by V. C. Pandey of India which appears to have plagiarized quite a lot of my work.

Here is one screen shot

Here is what I have had written on my website on this page since about 2001 or 2002. Back then I said I had been doing work with teens for 5 years. Now it has been about 15

The Internet has given teens a new, safe place to express their thoughts and feelings. It has helped them feel less alone by making connections with others in similar life situations. Many of them find it much easier to write and chat about their lives online than to talk to someone in person or even anonymously on the phone. For those who won't talk to anyone else, for whatever reasons, the Internet has proven to be a life-line.

The Internet has also provided unprecedented real-time access to their daily lives. They can chat and write about events in their homes as they are happening, or minutes after. Talking to them and listening to their stories for 5 years now has helped me understand the cause and effect relationships between how they are treated at home and how they think, feel and act. By talking to them we have had an insider's view of what goes on in abusive homes. And by listening to them we have learned how schools are often emotionally unsupportive, to put it mildly.

Here is another screen shot of the Pandey book:

I wrote

From our work with teens we have seen that there is a direct and very strong connection between repeated abuse and suicidal feelings.

While physical and/or sexual abuse by the parents and guardians has been present our observations support the research which shows that emotional abuse does the most lasting damage. Often, there has been physical abuse up to around age 10-12.

Core Topics

Respect | Empathy
Caring | Listening
Understanding

Other EQI.org Topics:

Emotional Literacy
Invalidation | Hugs
Emotional Abuse |
Feeling Words
Depression |Education
Emotional Intelligence
Parenting | Personal Growth

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My writing, in comparison

By then the fear of the parents is well established. After that, the abuse is primarily emotional.

Later I say

Sometimes, though, the physical and/or sexual abuse also continues up to the time the adolescent is legally able to leave the parents. By this point there is often almost nothing left of the person's self-worth and self-esteem. Even if they are still alive physically, their souls and spirits have been all but killed.

Then he copies nearly all of my list of "Characteristics of Depressed and Suicidal Adolescents" pretty much word for word.

I have already spent more time on this than I wanted to, and I feel a bit robbed of my time as well as my work, so I will stop now, trusting that I have made my point.

S. Hein
Nov 21, 2011

By the way, on this link you can see that I had most of this written back in 2002, 3 years before his book was published

http://web.archive.org/web/20030401214130/http://www.eqi.org/Adol_u1.htm

I found this book when searching this quote of mine:
"Putting Megan on medication does not make Mom a better mother."I was surprised to find a lot of my writing copied here.
I could not tell if the author has given me credit, so if anyone, including the author Mr. Pandey, knows if due credit has been given to me for much of the material between pages 176-180, please let me know.
The material was copied from this page of my website
www.eqi.org/tsr1.htm

Steve Hein

www.eqi.org

Could you please tell me if V. C. Pandey is one of your authors -- Or his book Anatomy of a Suicide is published by you.

Thanks

I wrote to the editor of Gyan Books in India which published the book Anatomy of Suicide

Hi

Could you please give me the right email for notifying someone there about a copyright violation by one of the authors you have published?

By the way, i just would like him or her to give me credit. i am not interested in a lawsuit.

The author is V.C. Pandey

title: Anatomy Of Suicide

thank you

steve hein

Here is what they had on their website

It has been said that 90% of behaviour problems come from children needing to be listened to. One study reported that the number one request from suicidal teenagers was for adults to listen to them. The medical power of listening has also been proven by various studies. Clearly, we all feel better, when we are heard properly. In addition, we feel better when we are understood. In order to be understood, we must be listened to. Often it is more important for us to feel heard than it is to actually get what we say we want. On the other hand, feeling ignored and misunderstood is literally painful whether we are six or sixty.

Here is what I have on the listening page of my site

It has been said that 90% of "behavior problems" come from young people wanting adults to listen to them. One study reported that the number one request from suicidal teenagers was for adults to listen to them. The medical power of listening has also been proven by various studies.

We all feel better when we feel listened to. And we feel even better when we feel understood. In order to be understood, we must be listened to. Often it is more important to us to feel heard than to actually get what we said we wanted. On the other hand, feeling ignored and misunderstood is literally painful whether we are six or sixty.