Human Givens

Human Givens

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This is an interesting term and organization. I heard about it from this email. One of the most interesting things to me is this list of what they call the fundamental emotional needs (The one big thing which I believe is missing is Freedom)

Security — safe territory and an environment which allows us to develop fully
Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
Sense of autonomy and control — having volition to make responsible choices
Being emotionally connected to others
Feeling part of a wider community
Friendship, intimacy — to know that at least one other person accepts us totally for who we are, “warts 'n' all”
Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
Sense of status within social groupings
Sense of competence and achievement
Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think.

Source: http://www.humangivens.com/pages.php?pageid=12

This is similar to my list of human emotional needs:

accepted
acknowledged
admired
appreciated
approved of
believed in
capable
challenged
clear (not confused)
competent
confident
forgiven
forgiving

free
fulfilled
heard
helped
helpful
important
in control
included
listened to
loved
needed
noticed

private
productive / useful
reassured
recognized
respected
safe / secure
supported
treated fairly
trusted
understandng
understood
valued
worthy

Email from Joy

Dear Steve Hein,

Thank you for you fantastic work on emotional intelligence, I have
been interested in the way people are,most of my life.
At the moment I am working in our local youth club as youth leader and
am currently doing a course on EI, in order to be able to facilitate
workshops, while scanning the net for something different to write
(Daniel Goleman is good but.....) I came across your site, found it very
interesting, you are indeed a gifted person.

Have you come across the Human Givens by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrrell
www.humangivens.com? If not I think you will find it very interesting.

Anyway thank you again love all those words!!!

Joy from Wales GB