- You are
often invalidated at home.
- You feel
responsible for your mother and/or father's
feelings happiness.
- Your
mother/father blames you for things.
- Your
mother/father makes you feel worthless and
sometimes even hated.
- You are told
you don't deserve things.
- You have
trouble sleeping at night.
- You care
about your friends.
- You would
rather spend time with your friends than
studying.
- You would
rather spend time with your friends than your
family or parents.
- You feel
safer with your friends than your family or
parents. (Or you have no friends you can trust
either.)
- You don't
receive good answers to your questions. (See Intelligent answers)
- You are told
things like "As long as you live in my house
you will follow my rules."
- You have
learned that it is dangerous to tell the truth
about how you feel or about other things.
- You feel
over-controlled or trapped.
- Your parents
seldom or never apologize for hurting you or
making mistakes.
- There are
secrets which no one but you knows.
- You don't
have anyone you can totally trust.
-You have been
betrayed by friends, teachers, and school
counselors.
- You have
been put on medication and it hasn't helped.
- You don't
have anyone who hugs you and just listens to you
when you are very sad or crying.
- You often
feel totally alone.
- You cry
yourself to sleep at night.
- You have
been told or taught that it is weak to cry.
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If a lot of theses apply to
you, then there is probably nothing wroing with
you, but definitely a lot wrong with your living
environment and the way you have been treated. So
please hang in there and try to take care of
yourself as best you can till you can get away
and be more in control of your own life. Please
keep reading EQI and other sites about things
like emotional and verbal abuse. Try to find some
supportive people online or in real life. Please
don't giveup. Rest as much as you can when you
need to, but please don't give up. And please
don't judge, lable or blame yourself.
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