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What's Wrong With NVC?
Here is part of a chat
from Dec 7, 2016 ...
Her: why do u think nvc is not good at emotional support?
Me: from my experiences with the people who study, teach
and practice it
what do u think they are not doing?
Me: they focus too much on the technique that they have
learned. they try to apply it like a recipe. do u know
what i mean? and they don't send hugs
also they seem not to believe that it is possible that
someone else can hurt you with their words or their
Her: I don't llike the
extreme of the whole "be responsible for your own
But That Is Marshal Rosenberg's belief too
Because the idea is that it can only be a stimulus
Not The cause
me: right. exactly.
I'm T\torn about it
I still like nvc
But not those parts
And I hate that they seem so egotistical
If I say I need acceptance or love
They will almost immediately say "you need self
Or you need "to love yourself"
Is That empathy?
They are so lost
We are not designed to be independent
We are all dependent
we are group species
Without intimacy we cannot function
Without Belonging, it's like death
Approval And belonging
me: ha ha hug
(I laughed because she
said assholes. i liked that. even though it is not PSP correct)
Core Components of
Respect | Empathy
Caring | Listening
Invalidation | Hugs
Depression | Education
Parenting | Personal Growth
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