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Maybe It Isn't That Bad

Recently I felt very depressed about something. I called someone I knew. We met and she sat down next to me. I started telling her how sad I was. Before I was even finished explaining why it hurt so much, she said "Maybe it isn't that bad..." Then she started talking. Ever since then I have been afraid to tell her things. I know that she was trying to be helpful. But what she said didn't help me at all. In fact, I felt more alone, less understood, more afraid to share my feelings.

S. Hein
March 4, 2008
Veliko Tarnovo, Bulgaria