Emotional Intelligence | Main Page on Emotional Abuse
Emotional Abuse vs. Emotional Neglect
|If I don't feed my child it will die from
neglect. But if I feed it with toxic food, it could live
a long life, but be deformed and damaged forever. That
helps us see the difference between emotional neglect and
If I am an absent father, if I move away, and I never hug my child or spend time with him or her, the child will suffer to some degree from emotional neglect. But if I live with my child and everyday tell him, directly or indirectly, that he is lazy, worthless, bad, strange, abnormal, disrespectful, selfish, incompetent, a burden, the cause of my problems and unhappiness, this will do infinitely more damage.
A child who has been emotionally neglected at home may still get positive feedback from his or her friends and classmates, or from other adults. This will help shape their self-image and self-confidence. If not emotionally and psychologically poisoned at home, a child may grow to be a functional adult. Thus the child who has just been emotionally neglected has at least a fair chance at a relatively happy life. But life will be much harder and more painful for those who have been emotionally abused.