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Inner Management - Ken Blanchard & ??
Frederick Douglas (former slave in the USA who escaped to freedom)
Thomas Edison, Inventing the Century - by Neil Baldwin
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Management - Ken
Blanchard & ??
Can bosses make you sick? Darn right they can - ulcers, headaches, stress, upset stomachs, cancer
What the worst bosses have in common:
He wondered how people get like this. Answer: covering up their own "not okay feeling about themselves.
If you don't feel good about yourself you can:
Some of the most destructive people in organizations are those who don't feel good about themselves, ie those with low self-esteem.
Do you want to be successful or feel successful?
Success is a feeling.
People who look successful are damaging their organization by their arrogance, their criticism, which steal energy from their staff.
1. Are you critical
2. Can you admit mistakes
3. Do you accept your body & physical image (After she fell of a horse her dad said "we'll never get her married now")
4. Trouble saying no. Feel guilty often.
5. Feel undeserving of compliments
6. How do you handle your birthday - do you want to hide?
7. Are you argumentative. (pick fights over anything, need to be right)
8. Are you intolerant of others (do you judge others) Bicycle leadership bend back to those above while stomping on those below (boss-guy-wife-kid-cat)- ties in home/work/work/home
9. Always take the contrary view
10. Are you able to forgive people, or do you keep grudges. (gunnysack)
11. Are you jealous/envious
12. Are you materialistic.
13. Are you impressed by titles/status/position/awards/applause
14. Can you handle loss
When you give people support they will push themselves to their highest level.
Helping someone develop their self esteem is a heroic act which will have far ranging consequences.
On becoming successful - ten habits/qualities of "winning" personality
1. Positive self-awareness 2. Positive self-esteem 3. Positive self-control 4. Positive self-motivation 5. Positive self-expectancy 6. Positive self-image 7. Positive self-direction 8. Positive self-discipline 9. Positive self-dimension 10.Positive self-projection
1. Positive self-expectancy - most readily visible quality is overall attitude of optimism and enthusiasm. Life is sfp. (self- fulf. prophecy) We get what we expect. Leadership (ability to attract support and cooperation of others) is natural by product of pse. Self-talk: I was good yesterday, I'll be better tomorrow.
2. Positive self-image - Important to be aware of own image. Sub- conscious self-governing device. If you can't see yourself doing it, in your mind it will be impossible. Subconscious can't tell difference between real and unreal vision. Subconscious doesn't place limits. (not low ones anyhow) Self-talk: I see myself growing, changing, improving, achieving, accomplishing.
3. Positive self-control - total acceptance for causing the effects in his life. Feel empowered. Realize the power. Are aware of their power over their lives. Take credit and blame appropriately (but not inappropriately)
4. Positive self-esteem - Deep down feeling of own self-worth. Family is not destiny. Inner directed. Develop and maintain their own standards. Recognize their fear, but don't give into it. Self-talk: I do things well because I am that kind of person.
5. Positive self-awareness - They know they are achievers, know they have potential, they know what they believe. Know what their mission is. [June 2000 note- this doesn't seem to be much about self-awareness, Denny]
|Dennis Waitley On Intrinsic Motivation (Not exact title) */
Motivation is an inner force that compels behavior. key is inner and compels action
all motivation comes from two faculties of the mind: memory & imagination. So those who stimulate their memory & imagination (visualization etc) are most motivated.
Two main forms of motivation
1. Intrinsic 2. Extrinsic motivation -- Intrinsic is better motivator.
Example of going to work when hate job for extrinsic paycheck.
** You can't externally motivate human greatness; Can't commission masterpiece.
Light your own fire
Real motivation is drive from within.
Our society is reinforcing external motivation & instant gratification Example of students who did better till incentives were withdrawn.
Give your children roots & wings instead of loot & things.
Help them build their own internal standards by your example.
Develop their imagination. Help them to enjoy present. Teach them that happiness is a decision.
6 kinds of motivation: (DeAnn Jackson)
1. Status with the experts 2. Acquisitiveness 3. Achievement via independence 4. Status with peers 5. Competitiveness 6. Concern for excellence
#2 is also to hold onto things. Example of guy with ring in drain.
#3 Desire to achieve on your own merits. (with training, education, etc) where you are sought after for your ability
Intrinsic motivators are the most enduring. When hiring, look for people who are intrinsically motivated. because extrinsic will have to keep being increased.
success is more a function of motives than efforts.
the two intrinsic motivators from above are the ones research prove to be most effective.
successful people are motivated to express something within themselves, a desire to use their own skills to solve a problem.
Example of street sweeper MLK.
McClelland's motivation research. Most active imaginers were highly motivated. (They told more active descriptions)
The more vivid the image the stronger the motivation
He talks about how mind like muscle, must be exercised or it will go flaccid
TV stifles creativity by providing all the images
People rise to other's expectations; mentors.
Ben Franklin examples of all the stuff he did at early age. First library at 25 US; mail at 31; fire department at 31; Franklin stove 36. Electricity 40; Founded a bifocals at 79. just two years of formal schooling. 5 languages.
Imagination is the beginning of creation. Whatever our imagination becomes fixed upon will ultimately be what we create.
Unfortunately, the mind does not automatically tend towards truth, right actions. It tends towards what it is exposed to the most. IE GIGO.
Our value systems are being formed whether we realize it or not. IE subliminal or subconscious or semi conscious programming. That is why it is so important that we control what we put into our minds.
You imagine what you desire. You will what you imagine. You create what you will. George Bernard Shaw
Story about guy who tried to impress phone installer.
McClelland found that successful ppl liked frequent checkups on their results. but artists can't get as much feedback or as objective.
He talks about how things change when others are present. For example if we are in a room alone, then someone comes in. We are very conscious of the other person. They might see us as an object to be used to help them meet their needs.
Then he says there is always conflict in relationship because each person impinges on the other's freedom and our freedom is always an issue.
Then the tape talks about his play, No Exit, in which Sartre says "Hell is other people."
He later says in essence that we would all like to be what we are without interference from others, and we would like to leave them alone as well, but we can't because we inevitably try to use them to reach our own goals and meet our own needs.
He stresses that we are always free to make choices, and that we are always responsible for our actions. Later in his life he modified this to say that circumstances had a greater effect on us than he originally believed. Later he said one can always make something out of what has been made out of him. He defines freedom more as the "small movements of a totally conditioned human being; someone who does not render back completely what his conditioning had given him."
Elsewhere Sartre talks about a person who adapts himself to his suffering "not through resignatioin, but because he lacks the education and reflection necesary for him to conceive of a social state in which these sufferings would not exist."
He says later that "it is the act which is the expression of freedom." [But he doesn't consider that we can also be free in chosing our feelings.]
Then he says we choose the meaning we give to our feelings. He also stresses that we can choose the meaning given to the events which happen in our lives, even to our birth.
He talks later about how we make decisions. He says even when we think we are deliberating rationally and objectively, we have already imposed our personal views on the factors we take into consideration and the weights we assign to each one. In other words, we impose our values on all decisions without really being aware of it. He seems to call our system of values and beliefs our "fundamental project." [I am puzzled by the use of the word project-- I wonder what if the original French is more clear. Evidently it also includes our goals, desires and perspective on life.]
His says every "brute fact" is given meaing according to our projects.
Later he says we should prepare to face our death bravely.
At the end of the tape the narrorator says:
From start to finish, through its many twists and turns, Sartre's philosophy and his own life express a consistent theme: We must strive to be free, honest and involved. We must try to make a difference.
Sartre genuinely tried to think out the meaning of the way he lived and to live the implications of his own thinking. He stood for something. He was scorned by many and he captured the imagination and affection of many others. He refused the Nobel Prize for literature in 1964 because he believed a writer should rely only on his words, not on honors, to persuade his readers.
Sartre said did not want to allow himself to be transformed into an institution, but he became one nonetheless. When he was buried on April 19th, 1980, more than 50,000 people followed his cortege through the streets of Paris.
Story of hunter teaching two students to shoot with a bow and arrow. He asks the first what he sees. The student answers that he sees the trees, the grass the sky, the target. He is then told to put down his bow. The second student is asked what he sees. He replies that he sees only the target. He is told to shoot.
If you have a dream and tell others about it they will provide all the resources you need. Your energy and clarity of purpose will attract others to support you.
Following your passion will produce energy.
The more you work on your dream the more real it becomes, and you see more and more possibilities.
It is not necessary to be especially talented. It is more important to keep working steadily on your dream.
Emerson said there comes a point when one has to simply swing out on faith.
Wickett says one of the most important things in life is to have someone who supports you unconditionally.
Gives example of guy in Vermont who started an inn and designed it just the way he wanted it. Now he is getting national exposure without needing to do any extra advertising.
He talks about the conflicting voices inside him which say on the one hand, go for your dreams, and on the other hand, that is ridiculous. He says listen to this hand, holding up the one which represents his dreams.
He asks: Do you know it is possible to lose a job and feel miserable and depressed and then go out and find a better job? Do you know it is possible to end a relationship and feel lonely and rejected and hopeless and then find a better relationship? Do know it is possible to go through something one year which seems like the worst thing that has ever happened to you and then in the same year realize that it was the best thing that ever happened to you?
He says when you are in one of those situations ask yourself what could make this situation better.
The author of Dr. Seuss books was rejected by 22 publishers.
The writer of the TV series Mash worked on his stories for 7 years and was rejected by 21 people before someone accepted him.
He likes motivational speaker Joel Weldon who has one tape called "Jet pilots don't use rear view mirrors."
He says we need to take control of our lives and stop waiting for others. He gives example of one lady he knows who says she has been waiting for years for her husband to get her act together. But he says it is easier to change ourselves and it is amazing how when we get our own act together others suddenly improve.
He asks the audience how many of you know exactly what is wrong with your partner or your children and exactly what they need to do. He says our defenses always say it is the other person who has the problem.
He says it is understandable that someone would get depressed and angry if they were fired from their jobs or rejected by their partners. But he says how many people want to hire or date someone who is depressed and angry?
He tells story of a lady who started getting dependent on someone else and then took control of her life back. She told Mike later her suggestion was "Don't depend on anyone else for your happiness, fulfillment or growth"
|Thomas Edison, Inventing the Century by Neal
tape suggest that edison's hearing problems "may have lead to attention deficit disorder," for Al was most decidedly not a natural student, according to the prevailing definition. Or, more tellingly, he did not respond well to the rigidly systematic teaching methods.
Nineteenth century educational philosophers proudly grounded in republicanism, protestantism and capitalism considered the best schools to be analogous to factories, places where efficiency, manipulation and mastery; promptness and industry were valued. Schools were supposed to be a place of morality and discipline above all else. Children learned to be deferential, restrained and obedient. Character formation and the careful exercise of intelligence were paramount.
Silence and punctuality were at the top of every standard list of classroom virtues.
Indeed, public education was established to alleviate crime and poverty, poor work habits and idle youth by cutting off the potential sources for these social problems at the earliest possible stage in cognitive life.
He mentions "Wilson's reader" from 1860.
"One of the first strategies developed by early school advocates to keep standards high was therefore the "discovery" of learning problems. As opposed to 18th century cultural mores, according to which if the child did not learn, it was assumed to be the fault of the methodology of instruction. Learning problems were established, or perhaps created, by mid 19th century American pedagogs as a defensive response, a way to weed out difficult students. It was also believed that a lack of inherited ability was to blame when students did not succeed.
In either case, the failure was assumed to have eminated from the children and their family background, not from the teacher.
This is the milieu in which we must consider the oft-quoted diagnosis of the legendary, abusive Mr. Crawford, Thomas Edison's public schoolmaster, who, angered by the lad's inattentive, dreamy, distracted behavior; frustrated by his tendency to drift off during recitations, to draw and doodle in his notebook instead of repeating rote lessons, cuffed and ridiculed Al in front of his motely classmates.
Teachers saddled with disaffected students like Edison were judged by how many of their pupils were promoted from one grade to the next and they needed to rationalize the actions of children who were "not apt."
"Sure enough, one day," Edison recalled with bitterness many years later, "I heard the the teacher tell the visiting school inspector that I was adled and it would not be worthwhile keeping me in school any longer. I was so hurt by this last straw that I burst out crying and went home and told my mother about it. Mother love was aroused, mother pride wounded to the quick," Edison continues.
This trauma was the beginning of the end of Thomas Edison's conventional schooling, a period that lasted a total of three months.
His indignant mother brought him back to the school and angrily told the teadcher that "he didn't know what he was talking about; that I had more brains than he himself."
Mrs. Edison summarily pulled Al out of Mr. Crawford' domain and commenced instructing her son at home. She was determined that no formalism would cramp his style; no fetters hobble the free reign, the full sweep of his imagination.
Edison was a "voracious, even omnivorous lifelong reader." He was know to order literally hundreds of dollars of books a month. (around 1880 onward)
If he found a subject that interested him, he would request every available book and periodical on the subject for immediate delivery without a moment's hesitation.
Thomas Paine was one of Edison's favorite authors.
According to Edison, Paine was a man who made independence into virtually a religious pursuit, [interesting, isn't that backwards, shouldn't our pursuit of nature's values be held as the ideal?] who placed civil rights before natural rights. [not sure what he means by that but sounds like a big mistake]
Paine also received constant criticism for his liberatarian ideas. "For writing his next great book, Age of Reason, Paine was burnt in effigy and villified outrageously" Edison tells us. Edison says it is the lot of the worlds great reformers from Christ on down to be thus treated, crucified and burned at the stake as victims of intolerance.
Edison first read Paine at age 13. As a teenager he also read books like The History of England, Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire and The History of the World, (by Hume, Gibbons and Pierce, respectively
RG Parker's A School Compendium of Natural and Experimental Philosophy
He was mocked by his classmates.
At two he was found sitting on goose eggs trying to get them to hatch, since he had seen chickens hatch their eggs that way. His uncle laughed at him, but his sister talked to him to soothe him with these sympathetic words: It's alright, Al. You did a very smart thing even if it didn't work. If no one ever tried anything, even what some folks say is impossible, no one would ever learn anything. So you just keep on trying and maybe someday you will try something that will work.
According to one author, Edison was "inquisitive as a young red squirrel. A nervous little question box." He used to watch men build ships and asked them "hundreds of questions." One of the men told his father jokingly that they were going to have to hire one man just to answer all of the boy's questions.
He was known for his "precocious powers of observation and retention." He would watch various people do things then imitate them on his own, for example, making wooden docks out of scraps, copying village signs in his notebook.
"The tales of Al's youthful curiousity consistently stress the consequences of his compulsion to discover phenomenon or validate nascent theories through direct experience." For example, once when he was investigating a bumble bee's nest he was attacked by an angry ram. Trying to find new ways to shorten his skate straps, he chopped off the tip of his finger with an ax. Deciding birds could fly because they ate worms, he convinced a girl to drink a mixture of mashed worms and water. She got sick and he got beaten.
"I did not have my mother very long. But in that time she cast over me an influence which has lasted all my life. My mother was the making of me. She was so true, so sure of me, and I felt I had someone to live for, someone I must not disappoint."