Stories

March 2012 -- Added "How Baik" - a story from Indonesia in 2003 and Uruguay Father from 2006

1996	You Got To Show Folks Some Respect	United States	A homeless person reminds us everyone needs to feel respected
1996	Are Thoughts and Feelings the Same Thing?	United States	An example from a group discussion
1997	From Head to Toe	United States	A mother thinks she understands her daughter, but the daughter doesn't feel understood
1997	How Good It Feels	United States	About how good it feels to feel understood
1997	Making Money with Psychology Degrees	United States	A university professor tells students how to make more money.
1999	JW	United States	About a child in a pre-school who felt understood by me, then afraid of his teacher
2001	Laura and the Silverware	Quebec	Trusting a 15 month old gets positive results
2002	You Need to Understand	United States	Getting stopped from boarding an airplane
2002	The Washing Up	Australia	Solving a conflict by helping a daughter feel understood
2002	It Doesn't Matter	Australia	A father disregards his daughter's feelings
2003	That Shouldn't Matter	Australia	A mother drains her daughter's energy
2003	Heaps of Fun	Australia
2003	Conversation with a psychology student	Australia	Young woman getting a masters degree in psychology to make more money
2003	Chemical Imbalance?	Australia	Psychologist tells teen that he is ok, but if anyone has a chemical imbalance it is his father.
2003	Budi	Indonesia	An intelligent homeless boy
2003	How Baik	Indonesia	Asking "How baik from 0-10?" invites more emotional sharing.
2004	Don't Think So Much	Thailand	Being told not to think so much or look so serious
2004	Mario	Columbia	The English teacher said Mario is a troublemaker....
2004	Mejor Agua Fria	Peru	How not so show understanding
2004	Listening to Manuel	Peru	An example of using the 0-10 scale during an argument
2005	Arturo	Peru	An intelligent boy whose mother underestimated him
2005	Love and the Legal System	Peru	Does it matter to immigration officials how much you are in love?
2006	After-School Fight	Argentina	Acting impulsively to stop a fight.
2006	Uruguay Father	Uruguay	A Father Who Cared But Didn't Listen
2008	Maybe It Isn't That Bad	Bulgaria
2012	15 Days	Thailand	Visa Law if you enter by land or boat
2015	No Idea	Uruguay, Brazil	Once I was talking to a retired police officer in Uruguay. I asked him why he thought people used drugs. He said, "No tengo ningun idea." This means "I have no idea.s" Today I am talking to someone who has worked in a juvenile prison as a guard. I asked her the same question. She gave me the exact same answer.

1995	Gretchen	United States	"I feel worse after I talk to you."
1995	That Many	United States	Someone telling me I don't have "that many" books