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Sarah B.

hello...i am a 15 in a half year old female named sarah..i live in xxxx.
I was looking up information on emancipation and i came across
your "diary" from when you were(or may still be) in Peru.  the article was
titled "Invalidation"  i found some things quite interesting and i found
that i could relate very well with what you and the people you talked about
were saying...

i guess i should tell you my story...i was in foster care from
the time i was 4 in a half untill i was almost 8.  i went from house to
house always waiting to find a home...not aware that i never would.  i was
adopted at 8 and life has not been the same. the family that adopted me has
two of their own children.  They also adopted one of my biological brothers.
 they stopped giving us contact to our other biological family members.  

I try on my own now that i am older to reach my other sibilings but its so
hard because..the last time i saw them my neices and nephews were  anywhere
from the ages of new born to 7...some were not even born..now its been 12
years...you can probaly imagine that.  My parents now and my new sibilings
invalidate me everyday.  They're trying to convince me that im stupid.  

They call me a slut and a bitch.  I am also bisexual.  When I told them this i
got grounded and my now mother was telling me that the reason i was losing
all my friends was because i told them that i was bisexual(which isnt true
because i told all my friends 1 year ago) anyways i said "if they cant
accept me for who i am...." then my mother screamed " I CAN"T!!"  that was a
very upsetting day for me because if anyone should accept me, it's my own
mother!!  

they are rude and uncuth and presumptious towards me everyday and
i can not handle it much longer.  they "inspect" my room everyday and find
my diaires and i get yelled at and grounded for expressing my personal
opinion in my personal diary.  i'm not saying that i dont make mistakes in
which i deserved to be punished for, because i do.....but nearly 90% of the
things i do and get grounded for...their biological kids do and get rewarded
for!!

there is so much more than this but i do not have time to explain it
all right now and i really want to get this email to you asap...please right
me back, i would enjoy hearing from you... i have very many more stories
about being invalidated....just yesterday i was invalidated at school by a
sub in phy ed. but i really must leave on that note

thank you for listening!!

please write back...ps i am very sorry for your loss that you spoke of in
that invalidation paper and for the unsympathetic way that person sent you
an email saying that you should get over it...im know i dont have to be
sorry...but still i am  thank you goodbye

Sarah B.