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Sarah B.
hello...i am a 15 in a half year old female named sarah..i
live in xxxx.
I was looking up information on emancipation and i came across
your "diary" from when you were(or may still be) in
Peru. the article was
titled "Invalidation" i found some things quite
interesting and i found
that i could relate very well with what you and the people you
talked about
were saying...
i guess i should tell you my story...i was in foster care from
the time i was 4 in a half untill i was almost 8. i went
from house to
house always waiting to find a home...not aware that i never
would. i was
adopted at 8 and life has not been the same. the family that
adopted me has
two of their own children. They also adopted one of my
biological brothers.
they stopped giving us contact to our other biological
family members.
I try on my own now that i am older to reach my other
sibilings but its so
hard because..the last time i saw them my neices and nephews were
anywhere
from the ages of new born to 7...some were not even born..now its
been 12
years...you can probaly imagine that. My parents now and my
new sibilings
invalidate me everyday. They're trying to convince me that
im stupid.
They call me a slut and a bitch. I am also bisexual.
When I told them this i
got grounded and my now mother was telling me that the reason i
was losing
all my friends was because i told them that i was bisexual(which
isnt true
because i told all my friends 1 year ago) anyways i said "if
they cant
accept me for who i am...." then my mother screamed " I
CAN"T!!" that was a
very upsetting day for me because if anyone should accept me,
it's my own
mother!!
they are rude and uncuth and presumptious towards me everyday
and
i can not handle it much longer. they "inspect"
my room everyday and find
my diaires and i get yelled at and grounded for expressing my
personal
opinion in my personal diary. i'm not saying that i dont
make mistakes in
which i deserved to be punished for, because i do.....but nearly
90% of the
things i do and get grounded for...their biological kids do and
get rewarded
for!!
there is so much more than this but i do not have time to
explain it
all right now and i really want to get this email to you
asap...please right
me back, i would enjoy hearing from you... i have very many more
stories
about being invalidated....just yesterday i was invalidated at
school by a
sub in phy ed. but i really must leave on that note
thank you for listening!!
please write back...ps i am very sorry for your loss that you
spoke of in
that invalidation paper and for the unsympathetic way that person
sent you
an email saying that you should get over it...im know i dont have
to be
sorry...but still i am thank you goodbye
Sarah B.