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Here are some of the basic human emotional needs expressed as feelings. While all humans share these needs, each differs in the strength of the need, just as some of us need more water, more food or more sleep.
One person may need more freedom and independence, another may need more security and social connections. When a person's natural emotional needs are met, healthy behavior naturally follows. (See note below about children, adolescents and schools.)
In various degrees, each according to his or her own unique nature, we each have a natural emotional need to feel:
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|Children, Adolescents and Schools
One problem in typical schools is the treatment of all students as if their emotional and psychological needs were identical. The result is many needs are unsatisfied. For example, one child, or adolescent, may have a greater curiosity and a greater need for understanding than is provided in traditional schools, while another is content to accept whatever is told to him.
Those with unmet emotional needs become frustrated, as any of us do when our needs are unmet. They can be expected to "act out" their frustration in various ways which are typically seen as "misbehavior." This is especially evident when children are expected to all do the same thing for the same length of time. The better we identify their unique needs and satisfy them, the fewer problems.
If a young person's emotional needs are significantly unmet, there is a much higher chance for them to have serious mental health problems, including depression and suicidal feelings, by the time they reach their teen years.
|How this list was developed
This list was originally based on the work of Robert Myrick in his book, Caring and Sharing: Becoming a Peer Facilitator. (Here are notes from the book)
|Note for those interested in
personal growth work: Here are a few questions from an interesting little test of how well
your emotional needs are being met.
See also the page on "Human Givens"
|Importance of Emotional Needs
In Maslow's hierarchy most of the needs are actually emotional needs. As his famous triangle shows our physical needs are at the bottom. Once those are met our emotional needs become most important to us.
John Gottman, a respected psychologist and expert on couples also recognizes the importance of emotional needs in our relationships. Gottman says, as paraphrased by Australian therapist Peter Fox,
|Parenting and A Child's Needs
Here is a quote from John Bradshaw
Here is a page which talks about the question "What are your child's emotional needs?"
|Some Google search results on the term "meeting emotional needs"|
In some countries they have labels on food telling you how much of your minimum daily requirements for a certain vitamin a certain food gives you. This made me wonder about our "daily emotional needs." Now I realize this is similar to our daily nutritional needs, but much less studied and discussed.
While searching "daily emotional needs" I found this. (I think we could substitute "resentment, pain and unmet emotional needs" for chutzpah as it is used here.)
|Emotional Needs in Business
Here is the title of an article by Susan David in the Harvard Business Review. I feel enouraged to see the topic of emotional needs being address there.