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S. Hein


What are your child's emotional needs?

I believe this is a very important question. In fact, I believe your child or your teenager's life might literally depend on the answer. I am sure their happiness and success depends on it. Without getting into a lot of detail here, for now I just want to make a point. Today when I googled the question: "What are my child's emotional needs?", I got zero results.

Here is a screen shot:


Later I tried "What are your child's emotional needs". I also got zero results. (See below)

This suggest that not many people are aware that these are very important questions. Or at least not many people are asking the question in this way.

As I looked through the results for the search results offered by google without the quotes, it further suggested that there is no universal agreement on what a child or a teenagers emotional needs are.

I propose a collaborative project where we try to come up with a list or a few lists of what a child or a teenager needs emotionally, generally speaking. I believe each person's emotional needs are unique. At the same time I think there are some general commonalities. I believe a list of these common emotional needs would help guide us in the right direction.

Such a list is what I am trying to create on this page of what I call the Top Ten emotional needs. I actually believe there are more than 10 important emotional needs, and I believe an additional list is needed for teenagers, but this is a start.

So I propose we start a conversation. If you have ideas, please contact me directly.

Thanks - Steve

Nov. 24, 2016

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I like the suggestions on this page


It was the first on the search results for my first question, without the quotes.

In reading their suggestions I noticed that many of them fit very well with what I have on my list, for example, to feel loved, accepted, safe, believed in, supported, valued, and to feel in control of their own lives through making their own decisions, with the help of their parents or caregivers, obviously.

I also like what I saw from this book which was a result on the list of results for my second question


Here are a few pages from that book





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