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It's your choice
Today I read
another article basically saying "it is your choice
to be happy."
I left this
This did not help
me. I don't think it would help many of the depressed
teenagers I have listened to. It seems to be blaming
the victim. I tried to tell someone this same kind of
thing once. A woman I was in a relationship with. It
did not help her. She did not feel understood by me.
She did not feel cared about by me. She did not feel
empathy from me.
She had been abused in every possible way. I have
also. Physically, sexually, emotionally.
I have learned the power of emotional support and the
importance of it
It makes all the difference for me. Before I was
really depressed and thought about suicide
frequently, this kind of article might have inspired
me. But now it doesn't and I see the danger in it.
I feel protective of anyone who is really depressed
and reads this and then thinks there is something
wrong with them because they don't have the energy to
"pick themselves up". The words "it is
your choice. You choose to lay there and do
nothing" might echo in their heads, making them
feel even worse about themselves.
It is easy to tell someone, "It is your
choice". It takes much more caring to offer to
listen to them. It takes more time. I am not
impressed by what this university founder did. I feel
skeptical of him.
I doubt he would have cried if the author of this
article had killed himself.
I feel bad to say this but there are 1,000 articles
like this on the internet and very few that offer
another perspective similar to the one I am offering.
So I feel a need or a duty or responsibility to warn
people. Please don't say "It is your
choice" to someone you love or care about who is
very depressed. While it might help them, it might
not. Listening to someone, though, really listening,
has never led to someone killing themselves that I
This was the article http://upliftconnect.com/moving-forward-after-rock-bottom/
Nov 30 2016
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