Feelings Versus Non-Feelings - according to nvc
This is similar to the EQI section on emotional literacy
A common confusion generated by the English language is our use of the word feel without actually expressing a feeling. For example, in the sentence, I feel I didnt get a fair deal, the words I feel could be more accurately replaced with I think. In general, feelings are not being clearly expressed when the word feel is followed by:
a) words such as that, like, as if:
I feel that you should know better.
I feel like a failure.
I feel as if Im living with a wall.
b) the pronouns I, you, he, she, they, it:
I feel I am constantly on call.
I feel it is useless.
c) names or nouns referring to people:
I feel Amy has been pretty responsible.
I feel my boss is being manipulative.
Conversely, in the English language, it is not necessary at all to use the word feel when we are actually expressing a feeling: we can say Im feeling irritated, or simply, Im irritated.