doesn't mean you stop
caring, it means you can't fix someone else
is not to cut all
connections, but to cut a few here and lengthen a
few there
is not to punish but to
allow learning from natural consequences
is not to admit defeat or
powerlessness, but to realize the outcome is not
in my hands
is to spend time filling my
own needs and plugging the drainholes created by
others' unmet needs
is to do what I need to do
to take care of myself, knowing I can't be of
much help to anyone if I am slowly dying or very
needy
is not to judge, but to
seek understanding and acceptance
is to stop teach teaching
helplessness by overprotecting and
underestimating the ability of others
is to move from denial to
acceptance; from feeling defensive to reflective
is to stop nagging, arguing
and scolding
is to stop focussing on
that which you wish would change, but which is
out of your control
is to focus your thoughts
on that which you can control: your own focus,
mind and attitude
is to stop wanting things
to be different and to start making them
different by focussing on your needs for the
future
is not to regret what was
or wasn't, or what might have been, it is to
learn, grow, teach, share, and prepare for the
future
is to invest in yourself;
to invest time and mental energy on your own
mental and emotional health
is to pursue your own
goals, dreams and plans while leaving all doors
open to the future possibilities