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The Invalidating Mother

Maybe it's not so bad. (When I told her the project at the orphanage was cancelled.)

Maybe it's not so complicated. (When I was talking about my visa situation and I said it is very complicated. I wanted to say "Did you hear one word I said?!"

Maybe she.... (For example, if I said "I haven´t gotten a reply from so and so." She might say "Maybe she didn´t get your mail.")

Maybe it is because....

Because you.... (When she was arguing with her daughter. The daughter said something and the mother quickly shot back "Because you...". I don't remember the exact words, but it was almost like "Because you didn´t listen to me." or "Because you (did so and so and therefore you deserve it."

Wanting my pain to go away quickly. But when she broke up with someone she was sad for one year. And she told me that when her dog died she was said for one month. Who can tell someone else how long they should feel sad when they lose a relationship or a pet? Or anything?