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Another open letter to Rob Emmerling, who sent out emails in April, 2005 to other websites trying to get them to drop their links to my site.

 

Hi Rob,

It has been a long time and you still have never responded to any of my questions. So I am going to try again.

What you did bothers me from time to time and last night it was bothering enough that I wrote about it and about you in my journal. I don't know if you are still reading my journal or not. I don't know if you are still "concerned", or if you are less "concerned" or more "concerned" than you were when you did your best to sabotage my site.

So I'd like to ask you first of all if you are a) more concerned b) less concerned or c) the same as before?

I would also like to ask you again what exactly you are "concerned" about. Could you be more specific?

I would also like to ask you to look at the Ocean page and tell me how you feel about it. More specifically do you agree with what the judge did? That is an easy question to answer. it is either yes or no. If you were on a jury, would you vote to support the restraining order or vote not to?

I really want some specific answers from you and I am going to try a little harder to get them.

Here is what I plan to do, just so you know. At least this is part of what I plan to do. I probably will think of more things later, knowing me.

I plan to write to all the members of the "consortium" and ask them to think about what you did and I will ask them how they feel about it and how "concerned" they are from 0 to 10.

I also plan to do some more research on you. And I plan to write to everyone I can find who you have spoken for or plan to speak for, and tell them what I think of your "expert" status and also tell them what you did and why I think you did it. And I plan to ask them how fair they think what you did was, on a scale of 0 to 10. Then I plan to make a list of who I have written to and what their replies have been.

Also, I want to ask you again, what do you think of my 0-10 scale. Do you think it is a) helpful, b) not helpful or c) somewhere in between.

I am trying to make things easier for you to answer. If you would just answer some of my questions I would feel a little better. Then I would feel like I was making progress. I would feel encouraged to be more specific, since I don't really like to use "I feel like" statements as much as I like "I feel" followed by a feeling word statements. Which reminds me, what do you think of my section on emotional literacy. Do you think it is a) helpful or b) not helpful or c) somewhere in between?

Maybe if you don't answer any of my questions this time I will interpret that as an indication they are still too hard for you to answer and I will put them into an even more simple format.

Something like this:

1. Do you think my section on emotional literacy is a).... etc.

Then you can just write back 1. a 2. b etc.

But right now I don't really feel like writing you much more. So how about you read my journal and go back and read my earlier letter to you and see if you could answer some of my questions.

Maybe you think that because I didn't do anything for a long time, I have forgotten what you did. But I haven't. I am really serious about getting some honest answers from you. Or at least I am serious about trying.

And I will tell you what else I am serious about. I want a public apology from you. And I want it on your consortium site and I want it to stay on there permanently. And I want you to give me a list of the people that you sent your emails to so I can write to them and present my side of the story. Here is one more question for you. Do you think that it would be fair for me to have a chance to present my side of the story? Yes or no?

I have seriously been thinking about legal action. But I don't care much for lawyers. So I am going to try this first. I could use some extra money and I think I have a pretty good case against you, but then again I figure you are smart and you checked with your lawyers first. I hope you didn't, but I think there is a good chance you did. But I might just check with some lawyers, too. But either way, no matter what the lawyers would say on either side of the case, I have my own ways of taking care of my feelings.

I view what you did as unjust, and injustice really motivates me sometimes. I am still not sure what motivates you. I don't believe that what you did was really motivated by a "concern" for the teenagers I talk to. I think your motivation was more to damage the reputation of my site so yours would rise to number one on google and so less people would read what I have to say about you and Dan Goleman.

So that is my update for you.

Steve

PS One more question. When did you drop the link to my site? You don't have to give the exact date, but what year was it?